How Does eHarmony Work?

How does eHarmony work?

In a nutshell, you pay your money, find a profile that catches your eye, communicate with him/her, go on a date, get engaged, get lots of gifts, and you get married.

Who cares about the rest, right?


Well, technically, you’ve got to understand how the online dating process works first. And, since this post is about how eHarmony works, in particular, we’ll start there. Shall we?

How does eHarmony matching work?

When it comes to online dating, there are usually two ways to view other profiles:

Either the site allows you full access to their entire database or they parse profiles out to you daily based upon your settings and preferences. and Christian Mingle do the former; eHarmony does the latter.

Some people don’t like eHarmony for that very reason. They don’t like having someone else (a computer algorithm) decide if another profile is a suitable match for them. They don’t like waiting for new profiles, and they certainly don’t like days when no profiles arrive in their inbox. In a word, they don’t like it when they’re not in control.

But here’s the thing: When we objectively compared all of the Best Online Dating Sites, we found that there really is something to that 29-dimension personality test that they so highly tout. When compared with some other sites, the quality of like-minded Christian profiles that were given via eHarmony was higher.

That doesn’t mean you’re destined to find the love of your life, mind you. It just means that through eHarmony, you might find Christians who are more similar slightly easier than you might on other sites.

How does the eHarmony process work?

The process begins with you taking their lengthy personality assessment. You’ll want to set aside a good 30 minutes to complete it.

From there, you set up a profile. Make sure your profile is an accurate display of who you are. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. If you’re funny, don’t try too hard. If you’re not athletic, don’t include photos of you holding a tennis racket. Just be honest—with your words and your photos.

When you start receiving matches, you’ll have the option to begin communication with them or close them. If you close them, they’ll be removed from your view. If you want to start communicating with them, you’ll have 2 options: Use their guided communication system (choose from their questions) or go straight to open communication (emails through the site). How you proceed is up to you and your comfort level. If you’re new to online dating and it makes you nervous, you might find the guided communication to be helpful. But if you’re a maverick of sorts, you can get straight to the heart of the matter and start talking.

Rest assured, no one can see any private information unless you give it to them. Your full name, email address, phone number, etc. are never divulged by eHarmony. You decide if/when you want to give that information out.

How does eHarmony work?

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Last updated: 7/29/2016

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    None of the online dating sites actually “work” as advertised – their algorithms are based on superficial data points, among other things. Anyone considering online dating should read the book “Data, a love story” and take seriously the tips in the appendix. The book shows you how one woman was able to reverse engineer her dating profile in order to attract the type of man she wanted. This process could work for men or women, of any religious or other type of background. You have to understand what kind of man or woman you want (make a really big list, and rank each item with a point value) and what the kind of person you want is looking for (do some research into the kinds of profiles which are the most popular ones on the dating site(s) you want to use). Keep your profile succinct and not too specific, but use key words that will screen out the undesirables, and magnetize the ones you want. It might not be enough to just say you want a Christian guy. Maybe say you want someone who is “Wild at Heart” and “Financially Peaceful” (these terms will resonate with men who have read books by John Eldredge and Dave Ramsey – weeds out a lot of men who are not really immersed in evangelical culture).