Christian Mingle Review 2014 :: Christian Singles Tell It Like It Is

Christian Mingle ReviewOur Christian Mingle Review Bottom Line:

  • GOOD: Security, personal control, mobile options
  • BAD: Almost too many options
  • TAKEAWAY: eHarmony is still our favorite, but Christian Mingle is a contender because of the large number of members.

We’re committed to being a comprehensive resource for finding the best Christian dating sites, but sometimes we have a difficult time finding the words to describe our feelings about a particular dating website. That’s kinda how we felt writing our Christian Mingle review. The truth is: we don’t love it, and we don’t hate it. It’s just…okay. It doesn’t trump eHarmony, in our opinion. (Read our eHarmony review here or read our most popular article: How to Get an eHarmony Free Trial.)

When we ranked Christian Mingle on our dating chart, we had to give it 4 stars because when we looked at the data and how it compares in important categories next to other sites, well, it stacks up rather nicely. But that’s clinical data. We can’t factor our emotions into clinical data. And it’s our feelings about Christian Mingle that leave us a little underwhelmed.

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Maybe it’s the prayer wall, the chat room, and the Bible studies that creep us out a bit. Something feels desperate wrong about combining strangers, dating, chat rooms, and Jesus all in one.

Bottom line, when compared with other sites, Christian Mingle has a lot of what online dating customers are looking for, so we can’t rate it low just because we don’t have warm, fuzzy feelings towards it.

Christian Mingle Review :: Pros

  • When we reviewed eHarmony, one of the issues we had was the inability to take charge of your own matches. What eHarmony lacks in control, Christian Mingle certainly allows for. You are able to conduct searches for everything from denominational preference to members who have birthdays this week. (You know, in case you want to do a little internet flirting, like sending them a “smile.”) Christian Mingle recommends matches to you each day, but they also give you access to their entire database so you can make your own choices.
  • Christian Mingle is one of the more reasonable sites when it comes to pricing. A six-month membership can run you around $14.99/month, while a one-month membership will put you back $29.99. That’s the price of one nice dinner out on the town if you don’t enjoy your one-month membership. Not bad, if you’re not strapped for cash.
  • Christian Mingle is heavily touting their growing number of subscribers, and for a metropolitan area like DFW, we think they have a solid number of selections available—even when we change our search options multiple times to test it out. Most searches result in hundreds, if not thousands, of profiles. We’re not thinking they’re going to run out of dating options for us anytime soon.
  • You can search profiles based on how recently the subscriber visited the site or updated his/her page. This is an excellent option since one of our biggest complaints about eHarmony is our inability to weed out old profiles for inactive members.

Christian Mingle Review :: Cons

  • Did we mention the whole prayer wall and chat room thing? One glance at the list of prayer requests on the prayer wall left us wondering if we needed to tell our accountability partners before we clicked any further. It’s sketchy, and it doesn’t help us to love the site. Then again, maybe we’re just too cynical and other people may love it. It’s your call.
  • All of the bells and whistles leave the user with a million different ways to communicate with matches, but it also had us wishing for one centralized method like eHarmony. You can smile, email, IM, leave messages on the boards, participate in Bible study, answer daily questions, see who’s online, and the list goes on. Isn’t it odd that Christian Mingle gives subscribers all the control they want, yet we wish for less? We’re demanding and maybe a bit old fashioned. Is it too much to ask for an email focus with maybe 1 or 2 other communication options?
  • Christian Mingle is owned by Spark Networks, a corporation with many other online dating sites including non-Christian ones. Like we mentioned on our Best Christian Dating Sites article, we’re not reviewing sites that are exclusively owned by Christian companies; we’re just reviewing the sites that many Christians use to find like-minded believers. That being said, sometimes it feels as if Spark Networks created a site for the online Christian dating stereotype. Take guys + girls + Bible study options + prayer requests, add some chat features and a dash of smiling at each other, top it off with an ichthus logo and voila! A Christian dating site.

Despite our emotional disconnect, we still admit when compared to other online dating sites, Christian Mingle definitely ranks well. Who needs to be emotionally tied to an online dating site anyway? It’s just the vehicle to help you find the person you want to be all emotional about. And, truth be told, Christian Mingle could be a very viable vehicle to get you to him or her.

 

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  • Dedra Cagle

    I have used Christian Mingle. I do not endorse it myself but I am a loner and it is hard for me to meet people. Of course, I have not found anyone on Christian Mingle. I have done all of the winking, emailing, etc.

    As a whole, I am disappointed in the quality of men – yes, quality (not on the site but in general). The men I have met through friends or at work, etc, have wanted a fling. The commonality of these men were that they asked to video chat and next thing I know, they were pleasing themselves. I quickly closed the video chat and swore to never do that again.

    My opinion is this…dating sites are a step up from meeting someone at the bar but one should still use caution. There are a lot of distasteful men out there as there are women in case any men read my comment.

    I think God can use anything for good. I am patiently waiting. Either I will find someone through Christian Mingle or God will send someone my way. After all, it is His will.

    God Bless,
    Dedra

    • Lettie131

       Sad but true. I found a great guy using Oasis.com. Though not a Christian website it does mean that you have to accept a contact request and you can take your time with the communication. You just have to learn to ask the right questions and listen very carefully to their answers.
      I was told by my guy that most guys will take what they can from ANY woman that will let them, and that so many girls are so desperate for a small piece of attention that they will do anything to get the guy to see them again, Christian or otherwise, even sleeping with them!  Trust me when I say that strategy NEVER works.

      • liliana

        Soooo true soo true man now a day are out there to see,what they can get out of woman.. Money free drinks free diners pay for there,rent cars,ext how sad but its happening

        • Scott

          Grammmerr iz tuff, huh?

    • Lalala

      Sometimes the men and women at CM are also the ones at the bar. Just sayin’

  • http://www.sundijo.com Sundi Jo Graham

    I used Christian Mingle several years ago. I struggle with a fear of men anyway, so I thought I’d step out of my comfort zone. After a few conversations, I decided to talk on the phone. After he dropped the f-bomb twice on the phone, I cancelled my membership. 

    Just because the word Christian is in the website, doesn’t mean that’s what it is. It’s certainly made me skeptical. 

    • http://www.singleroots.com/ Jessica Bufkin

       Great point, Sundi Jo.

    • Joseph

      I had a bad experience with a woman on CM. She posted nice pictures of herself and when decided to meet she called me and told me that she is a little over weight only about “60 Ibs” as a Christian,  I did not say anything because I didn’t want to hurt her feelings but slowly I distanced myself, she became outraged and became belligerent because I stopped responding to her emails, calls and texts. Not only that she contacted CM and accused me of being a con artist and a rapist, mind you I never met this woman, and I have only known her through 2 phone calls, 3 emails and 5 texts for a total period of 3 days, (yes only 3 days).

      CM blocked my access without hearing my side of the story. The good thing I have saved all the emails and texts to prove my innocence. I emailed her to say that if I recover any false information about me that I will file a defamation character lawsuit. 

      • http://www.sundijo.com Sundi Jo Graham

        Wow! That’s just crazy.. 

      • Lettie131

        Some people really need help. The website should have talked with you about the situation. It is strange how so many people jump to the conclusion that the woman must be telling the truth.

      • George S.

        Joseph, I can honestly tell you that although I would love to meet a nice woman, get married and have children, it seems as though God wants me celibate. It’s not an easy thing to be but it happens. I am 48 years old and have never been married with no children. Of course in the world the first thing they come up with is he’s gay or something; that of course is not it either. Anyway, any “real” practicing Christian cannot, I REPEAT, cannot be a homosexual and be a Christian. No matter what anybody believes, it is in the Holy Bible that is 2000 years old historical document (New Testament) and it cannot be changed. If anyone wants to be a queer, they need to abandon all religions.
        But in order to not complicate my life, I have just accepted this lifestyle. Jesus is just about ready to come back very VERY soon now anyway, and this is a non issue for me now I guess. I am sorry this happened to you. This is why it’s not worth my trouble.

        • Christopher Gerry

          And where might that be listed that one must give up religion if any sort? I’m pretty sure God’s love and GRACE is unmerited which means unearned. I believe homosexuality isn’t necessarily God’s best but it’s attitudes like yours that turn people away from Jesus rather then cause them to run towards a loving God like the sinners of old.

        • truth3r

          You are ABSOLUTELY CORRECT!! No one can be a TRUE follower of Christ and confess to be a homosexual that is an oxymoron in the truest sense… as to accepting the single life, you still have a “desire” to be married not single, which no matter your age God can still give you the desire of your heart it’s a matter of Faith…

          • Wow

            Matthew 7:1

          • Jan Mcintire

            Ignorance is bliss as they say.just wait till we get to heaven and our lord pulls YOUR chonies down and everyone sees how.you have lived your life.God loves me

        • Really?

          Mathew 7:1

        • Dawn B

          In his post, Where did Joseph mention anything about anyone being gay????? What did I miss? Where did all that come from?

      • marina02

        If you are really interested in a person weight would not matter. eventually she will loose wt if she is buzy dating you. go figure!

    • Marc888

      Sundi, why did you base everything on the conversation with one foul-mouthed man? That isn’t necessarily representative of the CM website.

    • Lalala

      Caveat Emptor as they say.

  • http://ikissedmydategoodnight.com/ Ruth Rutherford

    I’ve tried several dating sites, and I don’t think any really compare in quality to the two big ones, eH and Match. I was pressured by friends to try Christian mingle, so I obliged. I found the matching criteria to be “loose” at best. The matches I received were so far from what I was looking for… but the fact that they were Christian meant they were perfect for me, apparently. I didn’t feel that this site actually analyzed or took into account what I’m looking for in a match. In addition, there are simply less people on the site, which means your matches run out a lot more quickly than eH or Match. So, there are my two cents. ;) I’m still single, though, so take it for what it’s worth! (Probably exactly two cents, actually.)

    • http://www.singleroots.com/ Jessica Bufkin

      Ha! We think it’s worth way more than 2 cents! It’s good to hear about quality of matches from as many people as possible because it’s so subjective AND because geography also plays a big part.

      • Jess

        exactly, geography is so crucial!

    • http://www.sundijo.com Sundi Jo Graham

      Enjoyed your two cents. I can’t believe EHarmony charges so much. I can’t talk myself into paying that, unless they plan to pay for the wedding too! :)

      • Nicole M.

        love that idea! if dating sites started paying for weddings, i’m sure they would experience a serious influx of customers!! (myself included)

    • Jess

      It also depends on your location. I’m willing to be that there are A LOT more members on EH and match that live in the US, but in Ontario, Canada there really aren’t very many… :(

      • Lettie131

        not too many in the UK either, and I’m in London!

    • marina02

      I have triad e-harmony and found that when you are placing infor of yourself they insert things on their own and their is no where to add additional information. The window slides to the next page before you are finished and I did not like that.

  • BLee

    I am a week into Christian Mingle and I must say I have a ‘feeling’ about this site.  Although I am in Canada the only matches I am sent are from the US.  The first day I noticed an advertisement for Drink N Date with ‘racy’ (for lack of a better word) pictures of girls.  I found this offensive as apparently it is supposed to be a Christian site and the reason I signed up.  I emailed them to tell them so.
    And so far the ‘quality’ of men that have contacted me is just plain weird. Some of them read like a script written that is just popped off as an email.  Any that I did respond to never responded back after their first emile or IM to me. Odd.  I even think the first IM I received was generated…it prompted me sign up and take advantage of the 6 month special.  The person has never responded back to me after I was up and running with email and IM access.  I am not a paranoid person but this makes me suspicious.  I received a prompt that I had email and when I checked in nothing was there and still has not shown up.  If I was skeptical of these singles sites before I am even more convinced they are really not in the best interest of the those that sign on.  I am seriously considering asking for a refund.  I don’t know if they will, I might be stuck with it.  I am a Christian woman who believes and has faith in God and if I am not getting a good feeling now it may not be for me. 
    BLee

  • Robbied1202

    I just read over the review written here and then read some of the comments written below. Although I’m sure everyone has different experiences, I have to add that my experience was awesome. I probably looked at hundreds of profiles…occasionally made comments and sent emails and they also came in quite often….I really liked the freedom at which you can puruse the profiles on CM. I had been on eH and felt mostly frustrated while I was on their site, If you don’t like who they send you…you’re stuck for 24 more hours! Another thing that really made me disinterested in eH was that they send you profiles of people with no pictures ALOT and who arent even active members. VERY frustrating!

    I was on Christian Mingle for about 8 months and met 7-8 men. ALL were amazing people, treated me like gold and I am still friends with at least 4 of them and even occasionally text and face book each other….strictly as friends. All of us are pursuing serious relationships at this point. I only had one person to decide he didn’t want to talk again. I think the key is emailing  alot at first….TALK on the phone within a couple days if you think it might be a match and meet within a week, if possible. Otherwise, it’s easy to get involved emotionally over the phone after talking for weeks. I call it an “emotional relationship” or “emotional attachment” THEN when you meet you have a lot of expectations and they may or may not be “REAL” . Kinda easy to set yourself up for a hurt this way.

    I ultimately met a wonderful Christian guy on Plenty of Fish…I was ironically removing my profile from this site when I decided to just look through a few profiles before I deleted my profile. ( I HATED THIS SITE..I  GOT SO MANY CREEPY MESSAGES AND I REALLY JUST WANTED TO MEET A  GREAT CHRISTIAN GUY .I HADN’T BEEN ON THIS SITE FOR ABOUT 4 MONTHS…IT WAS FREE AND I COULDN’T DECIDE WHAT SITE TO JOIN AFTER eH….) The third person I viewed lived with in an hour and a half and I loved how well written his profile was. I wrote him a one liner complimenting him on his profile and didn;t even sign my name. He wrote back and we emailed alot for 4 days, we talked on the phone within 5 days and met in 7 days and fell in love …. Can’t believe it happened  on POF….To me…it was a God Thing!
    I would also say that all communication needs to feel right. You should love reading what they write, you should get a warm feeling when you hear their voice and you should feel comfortable when you meet them….in my experience, if one is missing it’s probably not a “click” or “match”.

    I learned a lot while dating online. I’m definitely not an expert!  I’m only speaking from my experience. At 53, I never dreamed I’d be blessed to meet so many amazing Christian men. I know there are a lot of creeps out there,(men and women) but there are also alot of wonderful men/ women who just want to find someone to fall in love with.

    Robin

    • Danielle Garcia

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    • Serina

      Robin, you have given me some hope. I will be 43 next month and I am nervous about dating. I have waited until my daughter is 18 yrs. to start dating now. I am finding that men don’t know how to talk to women. I am like really. I am an old fashion girl. I like to be pursued. I will try online dating. Wish me luck. I know God hasn’t forgotten about me.

  • Joe

    Christian mingle doesn’t have much Christians either. Many just state that they are but none actually know the true gospel ( no I’m not supporting self righteousness and saying I’m better) I’m just saying that by looking in the chat rooms and what not. I love spreading the good news. When I stated anybody want to talk about the bible only about 2 replied. People were talking about gays being gays, more girls for them because of gays. Just a site I wouldn’t participate any more. Trust me you do not need to find someone on a dating site. Do it the old fashion way and meet people. Do not fear what someone will say to you. So what if you get a rejection? There loss. God has plans for you so don’t worry about some dating site. God will put you with somebody. Ask and it will be given to you.

    • Helmut

      Thanks for the cautious piece of advice.

    • Leelo dallasmultipas

      Maybe God’s plan was for your to visit a dating site?
      Why are God and technology always combating?

    • britney

      I love this comment you made. im the type whos nervous to just go talk to some random person if I think theyre attractive, and tons of my friends ask me how im single because they say im beautiful even though I don’t see it as much , but anyways my friends always ask me if guys come up and talk to me but they don’t. no guy has ever came up and just started talking to me and I don’t know why but that makes me all that much more nervous about going up to a guy to start a conversation. ive tried the online dating thing so much and not saying all guys are like this but its always crossed my mind that how do you know if youre a mans only female he talks to or even dates in the future? ive dated two guys that I had met on a dating site and after we had broken up I had found them on like 4other dating sites that they had never deleted once he and I was together. I might be 22 but I know what I want and guys my age definitely doesn’t. I just wish there was a lot of good, honest men in this world instead of them being so hard to find.

    • marina02

      Yeh, I found that just because they are on the Christian site that does not mean they are Christian. One guy did not like my voice. How obserd is that! I found that their is age discriniation also. I am 59 and over that apparently age requirements. I only found on guy that I could say he was a Cristian. Most of the guys wanted to give their personal e-mail and for you to email them their , did not want an older women, did not want to invest in the time to see you , asked for obsene picutes, Those are not qualities of a Christian. Meeting someone in church is also a challenge. I attend church but if you are not attracted to the person the members want to fix you up with you are run out of the church. What is the answer. Would like to meet someone but find it inpossible . It is risky nowdays, you don’t know who you are getting tangle up with . They seem to be people willing to take advantage of , destroy you financial, or find stupid reasons like they don’t like you voice, and are just to picky. I am picky also but not that picky to tell someone I don’t like their voice! .

  • http://twitter.com/runismymantra Single&Picky

    I just cancelled my free membership with CM for a few reasons, some based in the actual product.  Those being that they’ve really eliminated any ability to use it as a free service, and they maintain this by a double standard of allowing men to indicate they are not a member or placing their contact information in places in their profile, but being ridiculously stringent on the content of female profiles.  I was not permitted to indicate I was not a member and so please don’t be offended if I do not email back. I wasn’t also able to reciprocate chats which they once did allow years ago when I first tried it for free.

    That issue aside, I think my other issues are likely not limited to CM but maybe more obvious on their site.  I was almost entirely save for maybe two men, contacted by individuals who were well outside of my intended matches, either 20+years older, well out of my desired area or completely not compatible.  I found that every time I logged in it was like being a bar and having to repel endless drunk idiots and frankly that’s why I was using CM to weed through that.  Lastly while I’m likely picky, I have to say the lack of expectation is disheartening,  I wish CM would have a base level of profile presentation – like no slang and at least one sentence present.  Makes me wonder what has happened to my generation when their attempt to find a mate begins with lol, gud or kool.

  • Margaret

    They scare me. I had trouble joining and they want my bank statement, credit card statement etc. This is what they sent me by email:
    I apologize for the confusion. Your original transaction was automatically
    voided because it was flagged as possibly fraudulent. We canceled the
    transaction to protect you in case the account number was being used without
    your consent. The charge will completely drop from your statement within the
    next 2-3 business days.

    If you would still like to be a member of ChristianMingle you can fax or
    scan and attach the following:

    1. A copy a recent, institution issued statement (such as a bank, credit
    card or utility bill) verifying the billing information entered.

    2. A valid, government issued photo ID.

    Once these documents have been received, reviewed and verified, we would be
    happy to activate you membership again. Please note, you can block out account
    numbers, transactions and balances listed on the statement.

    If you are scanning the documents, please reply to this message and add the
    file as an attachment. If you are faxing, our number is: 866-945-5209. Please
    indicate “Attention: Anna or Anthony”, you will need to include the email
    address you used to create your account.
    What do you think? Would you send them all of your personal information. I don’t think so.

    • Eddie Villescas

      I was about to join, but, after reading some comments, I decided not too. I’m 47 hispanic, educated, but don’t have time for games. Thank you all and may God bless you in everything you all do!!!!

    • cin

      y i k e s !!!

  • kmh

    I used Christian Mingle and really dislike it. In my opinion it was a waste of money. When you fill out your profile, you list your preferences. What you get it is lots of matches based only on your preferences. So, I would have to go and look at each person’s preferences and most of the time I was too old or not fit enough. It’s simple enough with computers to see if we match each others preferences.

    Then there’s the whole issue of the auto-renewal contract. Yes, you do get an email when you first join that it’s set up to auto renewal. I should have been able to turn off that option when I first signed up. And of course they refuse to give refunds.

    They do nothing to protect their subscribers from scams or worse. One of their little buttons even lets you ask for their email.

    This may supposedly be a Christian dating site, but the business is definitely not Christian. They’re just in it to make money.

  • AmbiVictoria

    Christian Mingle seems to not support interracial couples / marriage, as mostly every inspirational love story they have promoted on their site are with only same raced couples and the women are size 1 and very blonde. I feel if a site is trying to cater to many different people nationwide, it would do more to reach out to everyone. Also, I like the attachment site believe.com and the Christian articles / bible study – besides that- CM would not be Christian like at all. Not many authentic profiles to choose from especially in your local radius and after you browse the site their pricing format seems not worth it. You maybe entertained, but probably wont meet the attainable realistic Christian man / woman of your dreams there. Better chances off line.

  • contrary

    Christian Mingle may try and be legitimate but I personally know of a married man who claimed he was divorced and was searching for someone. This fellow has and will have an addictive personality all his life, has no friends and lies and cheats continually. I want to warn the women on this site to be cautious, be aware of all those they meet on here and always keep their eyes open. Yes, he may be looking for a Christian but if his wife took 8 yeara to find this out then imagine how he can fool women. Looks are deceiving and the lying unbearable. I can say I was once a friend of this man and he will never find better.

    • Maria Ferreira

      On Dr.Phil they showed a “christian” woman whose son was married and living with his wife.They have 2 children.This woman doesn’t like her daughter in law so she opened a profile on christian Mingle in her son’s name. She got several answers from young adult Christians and she told her son that she wanted for him to know that there were more choices out there!-Imagine!-every time I see their commercial and they say:”Find God’s will for your life” it makes my blood to boil.
      I emailed them and I told them that I’m asking the Lord to close down their website!
      If someone believes (like they claim) that if it wasn’t for their website they wouldn’t have met their matches then they are saying that God wouldn’t be able to bring them together on His own!-They are glorifying the website, not Jesus!

      • larzo

        Are cars also bad because they allow people to drive to motels for affairs?

  • Karl Schneider
    • John

      Stay classy, Karl.

      • Lori

        geeze…some people…karl, i will pray for you…since you believe God isn’t real, that shouldn’t bother you :)

  • Lori

    So, does anyone out there have a positive story about online dating?? cause I gotta say this is looking pretty bleak. I was tempted to try Christian mingle on the advice of a guy friend, but that is so out of my area of expertise. I have never dated someone i have met online, or put myself on a website like that. I am a devout Christian, and i think that is how sites like this draw people in gain users, by tacking the word Christian on it. I am still praying and relying on God to steer me in the right path.

    • Frank

      LOL! Sorry, really funny. I hear you, sister. This site should be a portal through which all Christians go when they want to sign up for an online dating service. They have to read it first. If you read it and DON’T despair, you’re good to move on to the next level. They have passed the test. “Sorry, Mario, but the princess is in another castle!”

    • Leell dallasmultipas

      It is too bad that you dismiss online sayin merely because you have never done it before, could be an indicator as to why you are single (or were single). As to whether there are success stories from dating sites I would say of course! There are ratio of success to failure is probably equal from a real life attempt and an online one! :-D

    • guest

      Lori, you should use the same expertise as you would if you met someone in person. Starting off with seeing a full body picture of them, and well as showing yours. Depending on what your interested in first. His look or conversation.. I’m physical first, so a man has to be attractive to me, what he thinks of himself, is not my deciding factor, lol.. Anywho, you go from there.. You wouldn’t allow a man to just come over after meeting him, would you? You wouldn’t start giving him your information, would you? etc, etc.. It’s the same thing… don’t get so caught up in the word “Christian” you can look at your everyday surrounding, and realize people lie, steal, kill, everyday, and say they are saved..

  • maria

    I definitely do not recommend this service. It is very difficult to get in touche with anyone directly. No phone number on their site. MY membership was renewed without my knowledge. I disputed it with American Express and they put a hold on the charge. In the mean time Christian Mingles blocked me from using the site, stopped sending daily matches, etc. When American Express went ahead and allowed the charge, I called them to explain that I had been blocked out of the website for one month. They gave me a contact number at Chrisitian Mingles. I called and explained that since I had not been able to get into the site for one month, they should credit my account or give me an extra month to make up for it. They were rigid, unsympathetic, and rude, and would not do anything. In the mean time I still cannot get into their site, am getting no emails, but am being charged. How can they claim to be Christian?

  • Maria

    Stay away from this site.

  • Susun

    I had CM. membership for a few hours before I called my C.C. company to dispute charges, they readily agreed. This site has mega advertisements along w/ pop up potential porn sites w/ seductive women, please they know but when I contacted them they acted unaware and actually blamed my computer. Really? I am only one who uses it.

    I was scamed by a male “widower” profile in less then a hour of service, trying to play the sympathy card and get my email address to ask for money.

    Need more info? google C.M scams: you will have hours of reading posted by women who trusted the word “christian” and got taken bigtime. Fight back if you experience this, you have rights! They should be called Swingle.

    • Deceived by phony Christian

      That explains why I met pornography and sex addicts on Christian Mingle because their ad pops up beside Porn sites.

  • Member&CMfan

    I am a big fan of Christian Mingle. I live in a small town in a state with a small population. There is nothing here for single adults except the bar scene. There will always be nominal “Christians” as we’ll as a few wolves in sheep’s clothing, but that’s for me to discern. I signed up for Plenty of Fish because I knew a couple (now married) who met that way. I was literally flooded with messages from men ranging from 27 to 76 though I specified my age and a preference. It was so overwhelming that I cancelled after less than a week. I like the communication options of Christian Mingle. I haven’t written on the prayer wall or taken the Bible study and probably won’t, but I like it that they are there. It takes a bit of courage for a man to register on a site with Christian in the name when there are so many others. From my experience, the yuck factor is less with Christian Mingle.

  • mnurs

    I’ve signed up for Christian Mingle only a few days ago, and I am running into the problem of not being able to reciprocate and send email to those who contacted me. I don’t wish to pay a membership fee, yet how am I to contact these men? I’m confused, will probably end up deleting my profile. I should also mention that I have a strange feeling about some of the things I’m encountering on this widely publicized dating site.

    • guest

      Your not running into a problem, the website clearly states its a cost.

  • Francis Brydon

    I did not enjoy my experience on ChristianMingle,at all! So many people calling themselves Christian,have no clue what a Christian is. People that spell “God” with a small “g” are not sharing my mind-set towards Him, at all! The name “Christian”, has been taken out of Biblical context in our age. Trying to meet true, born-again, Jesus only, King James only,praying, Bible studying, church faithful, sisters in Christ, will not likely happen in a worldly-polluted, online dating site like ChristianMingle!

  • Clev

    I’ve tried it for a year now and I’m not a fan, your criteria for a match are not used very often, a lot of the people your matched with do not have photos, and for me it’s very important for me to put a face with a name, especially when I’m talking to someone online, even though it could just be a random picture the person got somewhere on the internet. I’ve found that to be the case with several people women on christian mingle, and one of them wasn’t even a women, so you have to be careful because you can run into some of the same dangers that you would with any matching website.
    As for the control that you supposedly get, it doesn’t really matter, because you’ll get matched with people that don’t match your criteria which doesn’t give you much control over your matches. I really would rate the CM as a 1 star site because most of the features don’t help you all that much. I also take issue with some of the adds on christian mingle, especially the one that says, “What a man really wants,” coupled witht the photo of a man looking away from the woman he’s supposedly with.

  • Jess

    In my experience, you’ve got have a pretty thick skin in order not to let a lack of responses get to you. It can be a real blow to the self-esteem to not hear back from guys you emailed for a while.
    My advice is don’t take anything personally – especially in the beginning. Are there any good Christian guys out there online? I’m sure there must be, but I certainly haven’t met any of them yet…

  • Glory

    I am a member of this site last year, and met a guy who is a good christian man, however,the long distance didn’t work. I came back to this site, well, havn’t met any guy yet, it is just a try, The reality is every site has bad and good guys there. Guard your heart, and pick up your date carefully. I will just take it as a learning experiences.

    • Kinfolk

      Iz there ah free website?

  • giggles

    Does anyone know the cancellation number for christian mingle?

  • Victoria Hayden

    I cannot recommend Christian Mingle. I have been emailed by more “fake” people on Christian Mingle than on any site I have ever been on–Christian or secular. The profiles are fake. The photos are fake. And the language in the emails sounds foreign, as if English were their second language. I contacted a Sheriff in Santa Cruz about one person with an obviously fake address. If I can do such obvious and easy detective work, surely Christian Mingle can. Someone is going to get hurt some day. I should be able to feel reasonably safe on a Christian site. They should spend less money on advertising and more money on screening their posts.

    • guest

      Victoria you shouldn’t feel no more safer than if you were to meet someone in person, it’s a social site.. The name is just a name.. I’m sure you meet people in sheep’s clothing all the time. You should do detective. background, research on anyone that comes in your circle, personal, or business.. It is a business and it’s there to make money, it’s up to the individual to do the leg work. It’s just like on millionaire dating show, she can pull so called millionaires together, but can’t change the attitude, motive of the person.. if it was that simple, everybody would have the perfect match..

  • spiff

    This is taking the lord’s name in vein to a whole new level. This sin has destroyed my family leaving over one million dollars in unmitigated damage. This website introduced my mother in law to the perp within minutes. This vanity has destroyed many lives. If you sign up, you are a sinner. The wages of this sin is indescribable.

  • Lisa Brooks

    Christian mingle is a cold site. The people on it are rude and clickish. The site seems to be very cold. The bad thing is when you pay for the service your stuck with it for six months!!!

  • Debbie

    Like many I thought I’d give this a shot since the number of single men, in my age range, is minimal at my church or community group and I don’t think there are a handful of men where I work that are single. The layout of the site seems to be a cookie-cutter, online-dating site, more interested in making money than actually serving the Christian population in finding compatible matches. You can’t try a site out if you can’t communicate and you can’t even read mail that someone sends you without paying for a subscription. I could understand not being able to send but you should be able to read them. I was about ready to pay for a more thorough attempt and actually read messages sent but I wanted to get an updated photo as well as my favorite photo uploaded first so I didn’t waste money during the photo approval process—money is tight. They decided where to crop my photo for a thumbnail, not scaled but cropped, and completely eliminated the favorite part of the photo I wanted people to see at a glance. You can’t tell me it was anything offensive as it was me in a posed picture with a real dolphin (from the SeaWorld dolphin encounter) … they cropped it to an unattractive, wet headshot. Maybe I’m more naive than I should be but I find it hard to believe that any Christian employee (we’re talking about a Christian dating site) would change a fun, non-offensive picture into a boring, just another less-than-attractive face pic. If it was all automated I might understand it but the cropping was not to the center of the photo. The dolphin’s face is more center than mine. If they’re using facial recognition software and automated formulas for the process why would it take 48 hours—this is human intervention approval. After not being able to read emails that were sent to me the photo manipulation just screamed money-making rather than a service that actually cared about people. Again maybe I’m naive but I expect a Christian branded site to at least pretend to care about people and their feelings.

    • Lettie131

      I agree. If they are going to brand themselves as Christian they should at least try to find out what it means to be a Christian and how they should behave as matchmakers. Otherwise they should remove the title as it is false selling/advertising!

  • Jeff

    Don’t get suckered into a relationship with Christian Mingle. There is also no such person as “Cara” – it’s a euphemism for Customer “Cara”. Anyway, I signed up in 2006 and had a scam artist (woman) complain about me after I told her she was just that, a scam artist, for trying to get me to send money. “Cara” sent me a warning after the scam artist complained that I was rude to her without even asking my side of the story. Then later I actually found someone on CM in 2010, from Australia, and we dated for two years. It ended because we were two different nationalities and neither of us could easily work in the others’ country. She married a fellow Australian, but we remain close friends. She suggested I try CM again, and I could not log in nor make a new profile. I wrote to CM and “Cara” said I had been deleted for rude comments, etc. without further explanation. I have no idea when that happened along the way, but this woman who calls herself “Cara” (or whomever it is) is extremely rude too. I told this individual exactly what I thought of this, and I’m even going to call them. But then, think – CM is part of Spark Networks, which has dating sites for all manner of people, from Mormons to lots of secular sites. By no means are they Christian only. These people are bad news and they really don’t care about the individual. Whomever “Cara” is, needs to be fired.

  • Disappointedhopeful

    I was massively disappointed with Christian Mingle.A few of the guys that I did find attractive were scammers (and there were very few I did find attractive, not being snooty just need to have the chemistry, inside and out. Others describe me as very attractive, fit and young looking for my age of 61, most people think 40′s and a good personality) Not to say if someone was nice enough looking I would want to be with them if their heart was not in the right place, I just want, I am guessing, that probably most want, the combination of qualities, whatever that is that works best for each of us . I don’t know what the scammers point was, but the pattern was the same. They selected me, in one case I selected one. They all were highly excited and complimentary of me, wanted my email, some my phone. I had a dialogue on email with them and the next day they disappeared, profile completely gone. When I checked with Christian Mingle by their online name, for whatever the reason, CM had pulled their profile, by CM standards something wasn’t right about their profile.. Very upsetting.such stuff on a Christian site for one and very disappointing to me. I hoped I would get a feel for what it is like to be single, especially at my age, these guys led me to think ok, not all bad, there are some people out there for me, not even necessarily them, but some guys I could want to at least learn a little about. Maybe 3 good and 5 or more turned out to be scams as I described. I CLING to the comfort that in the end God will lead me to the life he has planned for me.

  • jennifer120

    My name is jennifer, from usa I never believed in love spells or magic until i met this spell caster once when i went to Africa in February this year on a business summit. I meant a man who’s name is DR.madurai he is really powerful and could help cast spells to bring back one’s gone, lost, misbehaving lover and magic money spell or spell for a good job or luck spell .I’m now happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me 3 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 6years. I really loved him, but his mother was against us and he had no good paying job. So when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him. At first i was undecided, skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. And in 7 days when i returned to usa, my boyfriend (now husband) called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married. I didn’t believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all i wanted him to do. Well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid, and my husband also got the new job and our lives became much better. His email is maduraitemple@yahoo.com

  • newbie

    I would totally not recommend Christian Mingle, I joined few days ago and now I can’t login after a few attempts of resetting password.

    • Red

      Me too. I’ve tried emailing them twice, with no response. It’s been a whole day. It was just a trial, but there’s no way I’d trust them with my money. What a stupid company, scaring off customers. Sell, sell, sell!

  • Tinkerbell

    OK, I have to be a little honest and harsh here. I am on CM and have so many emails from quality and not so quality men I can’t even go through them it. I still have 10 pages of emails. However, I am known to be an attractive woman and I’m 29. On the other hand, I’ve gone to the forums, which I love personally, and have seen the people who complain about not getting a response back from their emails. Well, the people are often not very attractive (I’m sorry to be honest), their profiles lack any substance, their profiles have way too much information in them, or they only attend church “on special occasions.” I don’t even think it has so much to do with the pictures than it does with some of the aweful profiles I see on there. Some people clearly do not even take two minutes to mention their likes, hobbies, or worse, GOD. In my opinion, it’s very telling. If you have good pictures, a good profile, a discerning eye then you will find someone. Oh, and you will want to look even across the US. I found few quality men in my city, but I’m talking to a nice guy in Michigan. Love doesn’t just exist within 50 miles of you.

    • Lettie131

      Many profiles are really sparse. it is really hard to find those who might be a match from what they say about themselves. And they get upset about it when they are questioned? I really got frustrated with it and stopped my subscription after only 2 months.

  • Blockheadnc

    Since I signed up for Christian Mingles, I was introduced to a felon, someone who only wanted a one night stand and a scan artist trying to take my money. It’s a same that a dating website that is supposed to focus on matching Christians with other Christians had so many non-Christians on the site. It’s one thing to quote bible scripture but it’s another thing to live bible scripture. My membership is expiring in a couple of days and I’m not renewing my membership. I thought this would be a safe place to meet people but I found that I have to be more careful on this site that others I’ve used in the past. All I can do is pray for those who are trying to use those who are looking for a God loving mate and are getting scammed in return. Pray that God will touch their hearts and show them convictions of their actions.

  • Sam

    I tried Christian Mingle a couple of years ago one it’s kind of a dead place
    2 just because it says “Christian” doesn’t mean it’s safe from fakes and frauds.
    I had a guy give me a “worthiness of his love” questionnaire it was kind of funny
    because he threw me out all sorts of questions about weather I was a virgin or not
    or if I knew the bible to a T and made me feel like if I wasn’t perfect in his idea I wouldn’t
    have a chance in the fiery furnace…then had an experience with a guy that kept mailing me gifts
    and requesting I do it too, he mailed me his shirts and gym shorts…LOL! anyways…I’m not a materialistic person
    and I don’t have money to spend it’s not that I’m cheap it’s just that I literally am flat broke and can’t, and he was pushing marriage
    and telling me when I’m gonna have his kids …even BIGGER LOL!
    I guess if you want some amusement and a good laugh Christian Mingle is a good comedy spot. it’s full of Kooks

  • Serendipity

    I met my husband on Christian Mingle. I have friends who have met their husbands on match and eharmony. I wanted to meet a man who was a God fearing man. I signed up for the 6 month memvership and cancelled after meeting my husband during my 3rd month of membership. It would have been nice if there was a way to transfer any unused portion to someone since there are no refunds. Also I never used or looked at the prayer walls or chat rooms.

  • Steven

    Does anyone ever make reference on these sites to the fact that the owners of the site are using God / Jesus to market and sell their services? When did that become OK?

    • http://www.singleroots.com/ SingleRoots

      Hi Steven, We have written a post about Christian Mingle’s ownership here: http://www.singleroots.com/who-owns-christian-mingle/. It’s definitely something to consider.

      • Red

        You should change your review. They have horrible customer service. I don’t think I’m the only one who thinks so. In my case, I was on for two days trying to get a feeling for it, and now I can’t log in. I’ve tried emailing them several times, changing my password and so-on, and nothing.

    • guest

      It’s the same thing when the ministers of the church are advertising, getting paid to teach/preach the word of God. When it’s free… Many people use God all the time, when it’s to get a point across, through good, bad times, ie… Christian Mingle is no different, than people using the word of God… everybody I’m sure at one time or another has thrown the rock, hide their hands..

  • Webman

    My 6 month subscription is almost up, and I’m still at square one. There are few active, compatible matches in my area. Most of the matches I’ve contacted either never got back on to read my message, or ignored me. The ones that got back to me either didn’t seem serious about meeting in-person, or wasted my time by messaging me for a while, then dropping off the face of the planet. My profile doesn’t get much traffic, even though I paid for premium promotion of it. I won’t be renewing. I now think that online dating in general is a waste of time and money. You don’t know who you’re actually talking to, or the person they really are offline. And it’s also frustrating being ignored, and having time wasted by players. I’ll search for my lass in the real world from now on!

  • DS

    Ladies DO NOT waste your time and your money on Christian Mingle if you are looking for a serious relationship. The guys that I met on here are only looking for sex and most of them are broke losers that still live with their parents. I went on one date with a guy that was a nightmare, he was 2 hrs late and did not apologize and made me pay for half of the bill. Complete waste of time!

    • jr

      DS: 2 hours late, you should have opted out.. 2ndly, don’t assume a man is always going to pay the bill. It’s ok to ask for clarity, just to be sure.. Now, if he says ‘Dutch’ that decision will be left up to you.. How many guys have you met offline that was looking for the same thing? not self -sufficient?

      • Red

        If he’s late at all, leave. But he should at least offer to pay the bill. I would go dutch on a first date though. It sets a bar: you don’t need a free coffee or ice cream, you’re not a child. Your time is worth more than three bucks.

  • bianca

    Christian Mingle is there for con men and rip off artist and sexual deviants they must be helping the third world country Ghana Africa because that seems to bewhere the scams originate

  • ILikeFlyin

    Christian Mingle SUCKS! My account was compromised twice in a very short time. Their answer to my complaint was to close my account. I demanded a refund, but they would only refund the amount of the unused time left on my subscription. I asked to speak with a manager, but was never called back. I lost dozens of emails and contacts.

    I am filing a complaints with the Attorneys General in Arizona and California, as well as filing complaints with the BBB in those states.

    I would recommend staying away from Christian Mingle. Their site is easily hacked and compromised and they do not provide adequate protection of their customer’s personal information and account. Yes, I have an axe to grind, but it’s legitimate.

    Greg

  • Anonymous

    As a single African-American woman in my late 20′s, I tried CM for a month last year. I’m open-minded when it comes to race, but I first searched for black men in DFW & there were only less than 20 who were never married, didn’t have kids, didn’t smoke, had some college education, and in my age range. The black men who came up in my search either looked like thugs (profile pic looked like a mug shot), looked too feminine, weren’t honest in their profile, or were already talking about meeting from the first chat. The quality of black men was bad. The other races of men never responded to me, & most of them had a race preference on their profile- black was not one of them.

    I don’t feel that it was a good place for Christian black women to find good Christian men that would be interested in them. Not all black women fit the “black woman stereotype.” Not all black women only look for black men. Being black women, we have the slimmest pickings of all people.
    I would like to hear other black women & men’s experiences on Christian Mingle. I know I’m not alone in what I experienced. Also, what do others think about how race plays into it.

  • Barbara Jackson

    I am not interested in finding a mate. This is the only avenue I could find to bring something to your attention regarding your TV commercial.
    The couple on the commercial state that they were married in 2011 and that their baby was born the following April.
    My feeling is that they should be more specific as to what month they were married in in 2011, because if the month was Jan, Feb or Mar 2011, then their baby would have been born in Apr, 2011.
    This would then mean they were pregnant with their baby when they got married.
    Being a Christian organization, I do’t really believe that is the message you want to relay.

  • summer

    I do not recommend at all. I was on 2 days & wanted off. Quality of people is not good. Site doesnt work well. No refunds. They are only interested in money

  • Randolph Lee

    I don’t like the fact that they use: find Gods match for you. When did God go into the match making business? Does God get the 30 bucks a month CM charges. What a joke, and people fall for it. Why not just go to church?

    • jr

      I say the same thing in church.. What a joke? taking up money for this, giving money to that? Did God tell man to charge for preaching the word? Does God get the money from the church? pastor’s anniversary? wife’s birthday? private jets? ie… nope… God PLANS FOR US, is to be happy.. however he doesn’t pick everybody spouse for them.. he leaves decision to them.. # choice

  • Lalala

    Well, I tried both eHarmony and Christian Mingle. Didn’t care for either one. The “matches” they made for me were totally inappropriate. No common ground whatsoever. One gets the idea that they say “you’ll take this completely-wrong-for-you person and LIKE it!” No thanks. Not that lonely or desperate. I figure if maybe one’s not meeting the right people in real time, in the normal way, maybe one is just meant to be single? People should consider that possibility…”thy will be done” as they say.

  • Catherine D

    I agree with you – sort of! I don’t really think there’s much that is Christian about the site. They are just appealing to demographics and preying on those of us who are looking to find a partner who shares our faith journey. But here’s a buyer beware: I had given up on the site late last year (Oct/Nov 2012) and just stopped going to it. Now, granted, I did not remove my profile (as I recommend all do who have decided they are done with a paid site) and I just received a notice that my credit card was billed for auto renewal. I did not choose auto-renewal at anytime, but apparently this is the default, and the information is buried so deep in the site who knew. I reached out to them to ask them to reverse the charges; and of course I expected as a “christian” site they would be more open minded and less mercenary. Not so much!!! They are “so sorry” but they can’t do anything about the charges that have been made, but good luck! So I figure I want to make this investment worth something and am spreading the word. I didn’t have any luck with the site as a dater, and now it is just taking my money! Stay clear – I don’t think it’s “Ok” at all!

  • Becky

    I have only been a member for a week. So many fake profiles and emails. I have gotten dozens of emails and every one of them has been from a scammer. Fortunately they are stupid in how they present themselves and easy to spot. I even had one email where the profile was that of a female but the email presented herself as a male and then slipped up at the end. I have reported most of them but I would think that CM could do some controlling themselves. Maybe they could set a limit on how many emails a day can be sent from one profile. Fakes would not be interested if they could only contact a few people a day but someone really looking for a match would not have an issue with that. Just a thought. Well I am locked in for 6 months so maybe it will get better.

  • SeverelyDisapointed

    I have used Christian Mingle and other dating sites. I am not impressed! The matching system does not take your preferences into consideration. My matches were usually more than an hour away from me, or the wrong ethnicity. I chose a Christian dating site hoping for more men with depth..ie, not wanting a hookup….not the case. Last of all, their customer service has a lot to be desired. I had decided not to renew my membership and had sent a message to such affect. In the meantime, I received two messages and responded to them that I would no longer be on the site. I thought I was just being polite. But NOPE…they leave your account open apparently, so if you respond, they can then bump up the fee and rebill you. I was shocked. Even when talking to the guy, he pretty much smirked and said what you didn’t expect that…I said no, honestly I didn’t. I just thought I was being polite. So buyers beware….just because it has Christian listed…doesn’t mean you are getting what you think you are! Good LUCK!

  • P. O’ed

    ok rant time real quick cause I need to get this off my chest. I signed up for Christina mingle a few days ago. 1 because it’s “free”, and 2 because i’m a single mom and figured I could meet a good wholesome man on a Christian site. The application process took a good 30+ minutes and then I get into the site, where I’m bombarded with scads of unnecessary questions like ‘would you tell someone their zipper was down?’ Seriously? So it takes me the few days to get my site the way I like it with description, pictures, etc. and I see someone has messaged me! so I click the message and what do you know, I have to PAY to read it. are you joking?! free my ass. if I just wanted to browse through men that live in my area, I can stalk strangers on facebook, WITHOUT answering dumb questions. the site is a complete joke.

  • DEREK W. NEWELL

    Hi there, will you please view my relationship poem, go to Google, type in my name, Derek Newell Poet, then view my poem,
    ”EXPRESS IT”. Thank You.

  • T rock

    I tried Christian Mingle out of boredom. I am out of and over a bad marriage. I know from the pain of a really bad marriage to wait for God. So I didn’t go on there with unrealistic or desperate expectations. I had this girl contact me. She gave me some run around story about how much she liked me. But was out the country with a sick mother. As soon as she was back she wanted to meet me. It really smelled. So I let it play out and sure enough she, maybe a she, asked for 400.00. I dropped the whole thing like a rock. I have no problems talking to people I don’t know. I am not trying to be harsh. But if you lack the self confidence and communication skills to talk to people. You shouldn’t marry anyway. Anything less than clear and honest communications will not end well. I know. I married someone that hide all there problems. Refused to talk about them. And assumed everything. I saw how that works out.

  • john

    I think that these ideas help them mingle with their fellow beings in case if they have some difficulty in facing all those. I feel that this can create a wide range of self improvement within all those who are shy in facing the outside world.

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  • Jesse Levesque

    Free browsing on Christian Mingle AFTER you provide your personal info and a profile. There’s always a hook, can’t seem to escape them even here…

  • britney

    I have used cm two times, with me being a stay at home mom I was really hoping this site could be free since there is other dating sites out there that is free but there is just a lot of weirdos on those sites. Anyhow , when cm did its matching for me the guys wasn’t my type (and I can be a bit picky,yes, but I want to be attracted to a man if I decide to talk and get to know him) but they never had anything in common with me , and if the one or two people did have anything in common , they hurried up and changed the subject (after acting like they wanted to get to know me) only to talk sexual which is a huge turn-off. I just wish meeting people could be easier but im a stay at home so I don’t have time to go out nor do I want to really , unless I would happen to meet someone great.
    as someone else who commented had said , its the lords will … things will happen as they are meant to but it gets lonely being single.

    • julie

      Britney, it make get lonely being single, but don’t settle for a “heartache”. I don’t know if your a stay at home mom because of choice or circumstances, either way want the best for your child(ren), focus on their needs, and eventually things will get better.

  • Junior

    This website sucks, right on the first page, man seeking man, there is not this option on the website, clearly ignorance have take these peoples mind.

    • Red

      For real? A gay Christian dating site… do these people live in a box?

  • jr

    Greetings: Whether it’s Christian Mingle, EH, Match, ie.. after reading some many reviews, think people.. it’s not the site, it’s the people. Keep in mind, the same everyday men/women are in the world, lurking, searching online just like you.
    People are drawing to the word “Christian” it’s just a word, the lifestyle they live will speak volumes.
    GET TO KNOW PEOPLE, DATE, DATE, DATE! DO NOT BE so willing to jump into a quick relationship, online or offline. DO NOT GET to comfortable with a phone relationship, because that’s what it will be.. IF your only method of communication is on phone, they keep giving excuses about meeting, if they meet you.. BOOM they want a relationship( BEWARE!) DON’T SET yourself up to be used, abused, scammed, or worse. This person doesn’t want to date you, take you out to dinners, movies, functions, ie… BEWARE! IF THE PERSON doesn’t have the time, money to date you, always giving excuses.. BEWARE! DON’T allow anyone to apply pressure, IF they don’t have the patience, it’s ok, you deserve better! IF YOU haven’t met the person, their family/friends/children/don’t know their real name, where they physically live, they’re work place (overseas, out of the country, can’t talk, don’t have verifiable information, BEWARE, BEWARE!) LOOK THEM UP WITH YOUR LOCAL, STATE POLICE DEPARTMENT.. No information, can’t find no trace of any information. DEAL BREAKER… DON’T SETTLE! DON’T SETTLE! People are looking for desperate, lonely, low self -esteem people to prey on..

    ** FOR STARTERS – BE HONEST**
    NOTE: This does not mean for a person to go down the line and give every detail about their body parts, lifestyle.. however I do believe it’s some things should BE KNOWN A HEAD OF TIME, UP FRONT BEFORE MEETING A PERSON, AND NOT SURPRISE THEM.
    A DISABILITY.. A friend of mines, met a guy who was paralyzed from the chest down, he was using a pencil to dial with his mouth, or having someone to dial it for him. He sent a limo to pick her up, & to her surprise. A guy friend, met a blind woman, who didn’t tell him. LOOKS/PICS: Pictures show 160lbs, you show up weighing 229, how you bloat up that quick? ( I would be PISSED OFF TO ) If a person does not date overweight, few ex lbs offline, CHANGES are they are not going to do it online. SMILE: IF YOU HAVE NO TEETH, send a private picture, NO SURPRISES, nothing wrong with having dentures/plate, BUT IF YOU DON’T HAVE ANY, OR YOUR SMILE IS JACKED UP, IT SHOULD KNOW UPFRONT!
    * EDUCATION/FINANCE: You have a Maters’s, yet lack etiquette in your verbal, writing skills (Really? please explain!) NOBODY SHOULD DISCLOSE ANY OF THEIR FINANCIAL INFORMATION UP FRONT. HOWEVER< DON'T say your making 000,000 figures, BUT: living in a rooming house, lodge, pillow to post, homeless.. You talking pictures, beside a LEXUS, claiming it's yours, but really on the bus, you just want to meet & greet in a park, it's 52 degrees outside (brrrr!). You can't afford dinner, you want to come over to house, chill & talk.
    INTIMACY: "Christian MEN – waiting on your spouse? yet all your conversations are about how long it's been since you been had sex how you can wait to touch, phone sex, taste, ie.. But, God knows your heart, a man has needs..
    "CHRISTIAN Ladies – you have not been with a man since divorce/husband died, but posting pics bottom hanging, breast showing, legs open, sticking out tongue, licking lips, ie, undercover advertising, asking for rent money, but offended when he comes at your sexually, and expect the man to respect you.. MAKE UP YOUR MINDS.
    CONCLUSION-
    Don't be a nickel looking for a dime.
    Not a Denzel or Beyoncé, don't expect one. You looking like Humpty, but frowning up when Jennifer Holiday shows up.
    Warehouse, Wal-Mart, Hotel Clerk, ie, struggling making ends meets, single divorce mothers/fathers trying to keep household together.. DON'T EXPECT to meet a plastic surgeon/millionaire..
    Although you work out daily, 3-5 times a week, maybe your natural physical fit, that's not enough or the key to a relationship…. when you have the additional baggage that may consist of these issues: living situation, job status, predators/absconders, no integrity, criminal record activity, child support issues, drug/alcohol habits, anger issues, lack of emotional, morals, promiscuous activity, etc, etc..
    You have to be the deciding factor, if you want to bring these issues into your circle. This shows us NOBODY IS PERFECT.. TAKE A GOOD LOOK AT THAT MAN IN THE MIRROR, YOU KNOW WHAT YOUR SHORT COMING ARE.. THAT'S THE THING ABOUT HONEST, CAN ONE REALLY HANDLE THE TRUTH??
    BEST TO ALL..

  • liz

    I have found that christian mingle is no better then plenty of fish, unfortunately. Most of the men just want cyber sex or free sex or are scammers from other countries.

    • TD

      All around the world, the dating sites are all the same, just like when you meet people on the streets, event, i.e. You’ll never know, unless one takes time to get to know someone. A lot of times, our Red Flags are already there, but we will ignore them, because we want to be attached to a relationship….. Get to know people, find out about them, ask questions, research, don’t be afraid of losing out. You can’t lose out on something that is not yours anyway.

  • http://ChristianMingle Mark Breinling

    My account was not supposed to renew. I signed up for a one month trial to check the site out and to compare it with eHarmony and Match.com. The site is no better than the ones listed and in some cases its much worse. On this site I was being sent false smiles from women in their 20′s and 30′s that were supposed to be interested in me but none had a picture either. They were doing this to try and keep me interested in their site but I”m not interested in woman 10 yrs younger than me so sure the hell wouldn’t be interested in women 20-30 years younger. I thought eHarmony was bad but this site is the worst of all. They can charge your card $30.00 for a subscription that you don’t want and will never use but when asked to refund said money they said they cant!! What kind of bullshit is this? They take your money but cant return it? Is this site run by the government and Obama? Cant refund my money huh! Well this posting will go on every review site I can find for ChristianMingle.

    Disappointed!

  • Joni Shifflett

    I joined CM in 2010 because I was interested in finding a great guy…and there weren’t many around me. So, I chatted with several guys, and finally landed on one. His name was John, he lived within an hour of me, and we had had similar upbringing. We FB’d for several days then he called me for about a week. We set a time to meet, and it just happened…we were married in August, 2012.
    We have our differences, but overall, we’re a great match! :)
    I understand it’s not for everyone…but it works sometimes! Good Luck! :)

  • RandomMale

    Okay I’ve spent a lot of money, on a lot of different sites. Eharmony, Match and Christian Mingle. Eharmony I regret spending a penny on honestly. I try to fill out that huge Questionnaire, only to get matched up with a small list of people who I had nothing in common with. The one time I did make it through the “Communication Process” with I felt deceived when I finally saw her picture. To many hoops to jump through, to restrictive and to costly

    I then tried Match, and I got what I expected from a Non Christian Dating site. A whole list of options, but for the hundreds of women that had a Christian denomination in their profile, almost none of them had anything to reflect that in their profile. Trying to find a solid Christian girl on this site, from Canada, felt impossible.

    I’ve tried Christian Mingle, and right now my view is. Its the best of a bad system. Trying to guess people by their profile, and a couple pictures, is not an effective way of doing things, but honestly I rather be able to accept or reject choices based of my own criteria than someone else. While I don’t expect everyone who claims to be Christian, to actually be one, at least all my matches are claiming to be Christian. Its a little bit better starting point at least for me. Their prices are resonable, so I’m giving it a second shot, now that circumstances in my life are looking a little better.

  • Mandokal

    My wife and I met on cHRISTIAN mINGLE AND RECOMMEND IT ABOVE ALL OTHER SITES. We were both on it for about a year and I met several great ladies with whom I am still friends with, we just did not have romantic chemistry. I had dozens of great dates and found CM easy to use. I never used the prayer wall or chat rooms so I cannot comment on them. If you’re looking for a hook-up, look elsewhere. And Cara, the site’s customer service coordinator, is very good about taking care of concerns (like the couple who were using the site to score threesomes…)

  • v

    Hate this site. No one has pictures. All matches sent me had no pictures. I asjed SEVERAL times for my money back……starting day 2. They will not refund money. The few people I did talk with only wanted sex…….thats very Christian. Fake, horrible site. Wouldnt recommend to anyone

  • Maureen Robinson

    I am just testing the internet dating waters @ this point…since following God’s way of life is so important to me, (& because I have been seriously BURNED by men I am sure are satan’s spawn in the past)….thought I’d try Christian Mingles.listing in my profile that I was “raised” a Catholic(Never bought their BS)….every male who is viewed by site as a 100% match for me is a Catholic….even tho’ I listed my current religion as “Non-denominational”….no offense folks…..but had I been allowed to complete my profile by listing compatibility criteria(which I WASN’T), I would have requested NO Catholics!!!!Not to appear unchristian,I also would have insisted on “Yankee Fans Need Not Reply”….I have too many issues w/ Catholic Beliefs & Practices

  • Cary A.

    I thought it was a horrible site. It should be free since the number of members is very small. I asked for my money back after being on there for 10 minutes (my profile hadn’t even been approved yet) and they denied me, siting the agreement. It’s a non-Christian, money grubbing site. I wouldn’t even give it 1 star.

  • JSBailey

    ChristianMingle may be a Christian based website. A lot of the people that I ran into, not so much. A true Christian welcomes a comnversation when someone is talking about GOD in a great way. After all, a lot of these women are saying, “I want someone who loves the LORD, and is a spiritual leader.” But when I talk about GOD in good ways, they all disappear. I’m not saying “GOD is great, HE brought us together, don’t you feel it? Don’t you have faith?” All I need ot say is, GOD is great, and they’re gone. Not very Christian of them at all.

  • sam

    What amazes me about Christian Mingle is how few Christian like woman there are on the site. I guess most of them feel if they go to church and say some prays they can act any way they want as long as it serves their purpose. I have had many woman on this site initiate contact with me and then, for no reason just shut me off. It isn’t anything I’m saying (unless general conversation like have a nice day can be taken the wrong way). I’m not contacting them everyday or pestering them. In fact, if they don’t write back I usually just leave them alone. I’m guessing that they contact several guys, and when one better comes along they just dump you. I guess some people would call that up grading. I call that just being down right rude. I have had woman contact me that I wasn’t interested in, but I didn’t ignore them, or when I found someone that I found more interesting just dump them. I tried to be honest with them about the situation, and be as delicate about it as possible. I guess my definition of being a Christian is different than theirs. Thank God.

    • Lettie131

      Hey Sam, I had the same problems that you faced. It is so frustrating. There was a program, aired UK, that showed their staff, and those of other dating sites, making up fake profiles and communicating just long enough to get people to pay for the membership on their site, then disappearing, as if we didn’t have enough trouble with scammers!

  • jenna

    Hello, how are you jenna

  • ryanmarcantonio

    Every site. I’ve tried them. I did not go on one date! I’ve wasted over $4k.

    • Lettie131

      Really sorry to hear that. How much information are you putting into your profile? How are you selling yourself? Because that is essentially what you are doing. How clear have you made what you are looking for? If you leave your profile too vague, people will see it as a waste of time.

      • ryanmarcantonio

        I have had EVERYONE look at it. They have changed it and made it better. After 6 Years I still change it, but still nothing.

        • Jason

          I have been in your situation, and I understand. I have not spent as much as you…but have gone two years without a reply, a match, a wink, a flirt…..it hurts, and it is damaging to the ego. My suggestion? You need to turn your back from it for a bit. Close your account. State your reasons calmly and professionally. In prayer, in service, in your walk with Christ you need to figure out the “why” this happened. It may not be easy. There may be no “answer” right away. I will say that despite how “Christian” these dating sites may “claim” to be, few are, and fewer are Christian in action and deed…..but in “word” only. You have to let this go for a spell. It is not helping you be a “potential” date at this point! I am not belittling your situation, because I have been in it myself, and I am still single. Does this help at all?

  • http://www.ChristianCrush.com Wyatt Fisher, Psy.D.

    There’s definitely pros and cons to each site available for believers. Here’s a link to an interesting side by side comparison of ChristianMingle and ChristianCrush.

    http://www.christiancrush.com/about/christian-mingle-reviews.php

  • Jake

    Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! I made a profile, decided to join. Spent over $30.00 for one month to “try it out” and they billed my card IMMEDIATELY. Then I when I tried to log on, about twenty minutes later, it’s throwing me “errors” and telling me I had the incorrect email address, and it was “already” in use. Useless customer service. My email address was “okay” to bill my card and send a receipt but “not” okay for me to log on, because it was already in use evidently……..

    I canceled my account the NEXT DAY, not even a FULL 24 hours because the “reply” I got from customer care was the SAME THING AS THE “TROUBLESHOOTING” panel they had on the webpage.

    I was told that they cannot “refund” my money. I am out $30.00 and you guys here on Single Roots are so deluded to give them a decent rating. This place is a scam. Period.

  • Jake

    Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! I made a profile, decided to join. Spent over $30.00 for one month to “try it out” and they billed my card IMMEDIATELY. Then I when I tried to log on, about twenty minutes later, it’s throwing me “errors” and telling me I had the incorrect email address, and it was “already” in use. Useless customer service. My email address was “okay” to bill my card and send a receipt but “not” okay for me to log on, because it was already in use evidently……..

    I canceled my account the NEXT DAY, not even a FULL 24 hours because the “reply” I got from customer care was the SAME THING AS THE “TROUBLESHOOTING” panel they had on the webpage.

    I was told that they cannot “refund” my money. I am out $30.00 and you guys here on Single Roots are so deluded to give them a decent rating. This place is a scam. Period.