Our Christian Mingle Review Bottom Line:
- GOOD: Security, personal control, mobile options
- BAD: Almost too many options
- TAKEAWAY: eHarmony is still our top recommendation, but Christian Mingle is a contender because of the large number of members.
We’re committed to being a comprehensive resource for finding the best Christian dating sites, but sometimes we have a difficult time finding the words to describe our feelings about a particular dating website. That’s kinda how we felt writing our Christian Mingle review. The truth is: We don’t love it, and we don’t hate it. It’s just…okay. It doesn’t trump eHarmony, in our opinion. (Read our eHarmony review here or our most popular article: How to Get an eHarmony Free Trial.)
When we ranked Christian Mingle on our dating chart, we had to give it 4 stars because when we looked at the data and how it compares in important categories next to other sites, well, it stacks up rather nicely. But that’s clinical data. We can’t factor our emotions into clinical data. And it’s our feelings about Christian Mingle that leave us a little underwhelmed.
Maybe it’s the prayer wall, the chat room, and the Bible studies that creep us out a bit. Something feels
desperate wrong about combining strangers, dating, chat rooms, and Jesus all in one.
Bottom line, when compared with other sites, Christian Mingle has a lot of what online dating customers are looking for, so we can’t rate it low just because we don’t have warm, fuzzy feelings towards it. Here are the pros and cons of Christian Mingle, in our opinion:
Christian Mingle Review :: Pros
- When we reviewed eHarmony, one of the issues we had was the inability to take charge of your own matches. What eHarmony lacks in control, Christian Mingle certainly allows for. You are able to conduct searches for everything from denominational preference to members who have birthdays this week. (You know, in case you want to do a little internet flirting, like sending them a “smile.”) Christian Mingle recommends matches to you each day, but they also give you access to their entire database so you can make your own choices.
- Christian Mingle is one of the more reasonable sites when it comes to pricing. A six-month membership can run you around $15/month, while a one-month membership will put you back $35. That’s the price of one nice dinner out on the town if you don’t enjoy your one-month membership. Not bad, if you’re not strapped for cash. It’s a cheaper option than one month on Match or eHarmony.
- Christian Mingle is heavily touting their growing number of subscribers, and for a metropolitan area like Dallas/Fort Worth, we think they have a solid number of selections available—even when we change our search options multiple times to test it out. Most searches result in hundreds, if not thousands, of profiles. We’re not thinking they’re going to run out of dating options for us anytime soon.
- You can search profiles based on how recently the subscriber visited the site or updated his/her page. This is an excellent option since one of our biggest complaints about eHarmony is our inability to weed out old profiles for inactive members.
Christian Mingle Review :: Cons
- Did we mention the whole prayer wall and chat room thing? One glance at the list of prayer requests on the prayer wall left us wondering if we needed to tell our accountability partners before we clicked any further. It’s sketchy, and it doesn’t help us to love the site. Then again, maybe we’re just too cynical and other people may love it. It’s your call.
- All of the bells and whistles leave the user with a million different ways to communicate with matches, but it also had us wishing for one centralized method like eHarmony. You can smile, email, IM, leave messages on the boards, participate in Bible study, answer daily questions, see who’s online, and the list goes on. Isn’t it odd that Christian Mingle gives subscribers all the control they want, yet we wish for less? We’re demanding and maybe a bit old-fashioned. Is it too much to ask for an email focus with maybe 1 or 2 other communication options?
- We’ve also heard a lot of complaints about their auto-renewal system when your contract is up. If you don’t cancel your subscription before the deadline, it will auto-renew and there’s no refunding that amount. We understand those complaints, for sure, but we think it’s important to note that’s not just a Christian Mingle issue. Most of the online dating sites do the same thing, so in all fairness, we wanted to point it out.
- Christian Mingle is owned by Spark Networks, a corporation with many other online dating sites including non-Christian ones. Like we mentioned on our Best Christian Dating Sites article, we’re not reviewing sites that are exclusively owned by Christian companies; we’re just reviewing the sites that many Christians use to find like-minded believers. That being said, sometimes it feels as if Spark Networks created a site for the online Christian dating stereotype. Take guys + girls + Bible study options + prayer requests, add some chat features and a dash of sending smiles to each other, top it off with an ichthus logo, and voila! A Christian dating site.
- Christian Mingle now allows for same-sex matches on the site. Similar to what happened to eHarmony years ago, Christian Mingle was ordered by a judge in June 2016 to provide options for same-sex couples seeking a relationship. Now, instead of asking if you’re a man seeking a woman or a woman seeking a man, Christian Mingle just has you enter if you’re a man or a woman. For some, this is a deal breaker when deciding which online dating site to use, so we thought it was important to note. In the event that this information violates your personal convictions, you’ll want to use a Christian-owned site like Christian Cafe, Christian Crush, or Marry Well.
Christian Mingle Review :: How Much Does It Cost?
If you’ve spent much time on SingleRoots at all, you’ll notice that we let you know of any online dating discounts or deals that we find out about. The thing is, we never get any discounts for Christian Mingle. We get plenty of them for eHarmony or Match, but Christian Mingle online dating deals are as elusive as the chupacabra.
When we were conducting our Christian Mingle review update, though, we set up a new account. In doing so, we learned that Christian Mingle offers discounts sometimes around holidays to new users. This particular holiday netted discounts of up to 40% off. The discount depends on how many months you sign up for.
For instance, a one-month membership didn’t incur a discount; it was still the typical price of $34.99. However, the typical 3-month membership price of $19.99/month was reduced to $14.99/month. A 6-month membership of $14.99/month was reduced to $8.99/month. It’s important to note that anytime you purchase more than one month, you’ll be billed in one payment. That can be a big deal to people on a limited income, but it’s also something that is done on most online dating sites, so Christian Mingle isn’t different.
Christian Mingle Review :: Our Recommendation
Despite our emotional disconnect, we still admit when compared to other online dating sites, Christian Mingle definitely ranks well. Who needs to be emotionally tied to an online dating site anyway? It’s just the vehicle to help you find the person you want to be all emotional about. And, truth be told, Christian Mingle could be a very viable vehicle to get you to him or her. (Check out Chris and Arica’s story about meeting on Christian Mingle.)
Use this special link to register & browse for free at ChristianMingle.com. It’ll open in a new window and you can keep this one open, too. We’ll walk you through the Christian Mingle account set up process, including some of our Pro Tips.
Christian Mingle Review :: How to Set Up an Account
You’ll need an email address to set up your Christian Mingle account. Go ahead and get your credit card out, too. If people start smiling at you or messaging you, you know you’re going to want to be able to communicate with them.
Trust us. We’ve tried to set up accounts and not pay, but curiosity really does kill the cat—or at least our wallet.
For a quick explanation of a Christian Mingle account set up, check out our video below. Or, keep scrolling for a more detailed approach.
The good news about the Christian Mingle profile set up process is that the majority of it is multiple choice. You’ll answer a lot of basic questions about yourself: height, body type, eye color, hair color, ethnicity, etc.
You’ll also answer questions about the church you were raised in (Scroll down because there are 23 denominational options.) and how often you attend. Then you’ll answer what denomination you attend now. You can also list the name of the church/ministry you attend.
[Pro Tip: Skip the question where you can name the church you go to now. The internet’s not a scary place anymore, but there’s no need to pinpoint yourself that closely.]
Match.com makes you choose your screen name at the beginning, but Christian Mingle waits until you’re well into the set-up process before they ask you for your screen name.
Between figuring out your screen name followed by a short answer paragraph describing yourself and your personality, the longest part of your set-up process happens right here. It’s tempting to only give the self-description a half-hearted attempt, but you should do your best. It’s on the first page of your profile and it’s an easy way to clearly state how important your relationship with Christ is to you.
Once you complete those things, you’ll have 3 options: Become a subscriber, Introduce Yourself, Start Browsing Now.
Go ahead and click on “Become a Subscriber” to see if Christian Mingle offers you any discounts as a first-time member. It’s good to know how much money it will cost you to become a member—that way you won’t get too excited about it if you can’t afford it.
[Pro Tip: If you want to look at subscription prices but not purchase anything yet, it will seem like you can’t get back into the site without paying. That’s not the case. Just click on the Christian Mingle logo at the top and it will take you to the home page so you can browse matches and add to your profile.]
When you go back to the home page, you’ll be free to start browsing, so you’d think you’re done. But if you think about it, you haven’t really set up your profile yet. A few multiple choice questions and one short answer intro are hardly enough. You haven’t even uploaded a profile pic yet.
Look at the blue toolbar across the top of the page. Click on “My Profile” then “Edit Your Profile.” You’ve already answered the “About Me” section in the original multiple choice answers, but you still have the “Fun Facts,” “Match Preferences,” and “Essays” sections to fill in. The good news is most of those are also multiple choice, but the “Essays” section is…well, essays.
[Pro Tip: There are 8 essays you can fill in under the “Essays” section. No one says you have to do one or all of them, although it’s a good idea to answer at least a couple of them. Since many of your other answers on your profile are multiple choice answers, it’s good to let your matches hear your voice through your words. That said, don’t feel like you have to write actual essays for each of them. The answer to “My favorite Bible passage and why” doesn’t require a theological dissertation. A simple verse and sentence or two explanation will suffice.]
Don’t skip out on the “Match Preferences” section. While everyone may not read it, it does help weed out some matches that you may not be interested in. Plus it gives you one more opportunity to stress to your prospective matches that dating someone who is a devoted follower of Jesus Christ is super important to you.
Import Your Profile Pictures
Just like eHarmony and Match.com, you can connect your Christian Mingle account with your Facebook account and import photos you’ve been tagged in there. For those of you who lack good photos of your own but don’t want to have to ask a friend to help you out, this is a good option. Like the text in your profile, all photos must go through the Christian Mingle approval process, so they won’t appear immediately.
[Pro Tip: When selecting your photos, limit your selfies and group pics to 1 or 2 of each. Too many selfies make you look narcissistic; too many group pics make it look like you’ve got something to hide. Be sure and include at least one picture that shows who you are from head to toe, unobstructed.]
Show Them the Money
You can only do so much on Christian Mingle without paying them for a membership. In fact, you can’t communicate with other people until you pay. Well, you can send them a smile, but we don’t think that counts as actual communication.
So pay them the money and then you’re all set.
Christian Mingle Review :: How to Close Your Christian Mingle Account When You’ve Found the Love of Your Life
At some point you’re going to need to close your Christian Mingle account. We’re hoping that’s because you’ve fallen in love and don’t need their services anymore. But that’s not the case for everyone; some people just decide to take a break from online dating. Either way—if you’re in love or in need of a break—you’ll need to close your account.
Here’s how you take care of that:
For starters, you should know that Christian Mingle doesn’t give partial refunds. So if you’ve paid for 6 months, then your membership will run out when those 6 months are up. You can close your account before the 6 months are up, but Christian Mingle won’t be paying you back for any unused portion of your membership. That’s pretty much the same across the board with the online dating sites.
[Pro Tip: Before you move forward and close your account, go in and delete your profile pictures. This is a good idea since you won’t have access to your account any longer. It’s never a good idea to walk away from your photos on any website.]
After you’ve logged in, click on “Your Account” at the top of the home page. On the Account page, under “Account Summary,” you’ll find a “Remove My Profile” button. It’s not hidden, but it’s not highlighted either, so you might have to look for it.
Once you click on “Remove My Profile,” Christian Mingle will ask you 3 short survey questions about why you’re leaving. You have to answer them in order to close your account.
[Pro Tip: Unlike Match.com who keeps your profile in their database for up to a year, Christian Mingle ditches it promptly. So that means if you click the “Rejoin” button, you’ll have to walk through the set-up process all over again. If you think there’s even a remote chance that you might want to rejoin in the future, copy and paste your profile answers into a document you can save on your computer so that you won’t have to start from scratch in the future.]
Do you agree with our Christian Mingle Review? What are your thoughts? How does it compare to other dating sites? Share them with us in the comment section!
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Last updated: 7/20/2016