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Christian Mingle Review 2013 :: Christian Singles Tell It Like It Is

January 11, 2013 by 53 Comments

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We’re committed to being a comprehensive resource for finding the best Christian dating sites, but sometimes we have a difficult time finding the words to describe our feelings about a particular dating website. That’s kinda how we felt writing our Christian Mingle review. The truth is: we don’t love it, and we don’t hate it. It’s just…okay. It doesn’t trump eHarmony, in our opinion. (Read our eHarmony review here)

When we ranked Christian Mingle on our dating chart, we had to give it 4 stars because when we looked at the data and how it compares in important categories next to other sites, well, it stacks up rather nicely. But that’s clinical data. We can’t factor our emotions into clinical data. And it’s our feelings about Christian Mingle that leave us a little underwhelmed.

Maybe it’s the prayer wall, the chat room, and the Bible studies that creep us out a bit. Something feels desperate wrong about combining strangers, dating, chat rooms, and Jesus all in one.

Bottom line, when compared with other sites, Christian Mingle has a lot of what online dating customers are looking for, so we can’t rate it low just because we don’t have warm, fuzzy feelings towards it.

Christian Mingle Review :: Pros

  • When we reviewed eHarmony, one of the issues we had was the inability to take charge of your own matches. Well, what eHarmony lacks in control, Christian Mingle certainly allows for. You are able to conduct searches for everything from denominational preference to members who have birthdays this week. (You know, in case you want to do a little internet flirting, like sending them a “smile.”) Christian Mingle recommends matches to you each day, but they also give you access to their entire database so you can make your own choices.
  • Christian Mingle is one of the more reasonable sites when it comes to pricing. A six-month membership can run you around $14.99/month, while a one-month membership will put you back $29.99. That’s the price of one nice dinner out on the town if you don’t enjoy your one-month membership. Not bad, if you’re not strapped for cash.
  • Christian Mingle is heavily touting their growing number of subscribers, and for a metropolitan area like DFW, we think they have a solid number of selections available—even when we change our search options multiple times to test it out. Most searches result in hundreds, if not thousands, of profiles. We’re not thinking they’re going to run out of dating options for us anytime soon.
  • You can search profiles based on how recently the subscriber visited the site or updated his/her page. This is an excellent option since one of our biggest complaints about eHarmony is our inability to weed out old profiles for inactive members.

Christian Mingle Review :: Cons

  • Did we mention the whole prayer wall and chat room thing? One glance at the list of prayer requests on the prayer wall left us wondering if we needed to tell our accountability partners before we clicked any further. It’s sketchy, and it doesn’t help us to love the site.
  • All of the bells and whistles leave the user with a million different ways to communicate with matches, but it also had us wishing for one centralized method like eHarmony. You can smile, email, IM, leave messages on the boards, participate in Bible study, answer daily questions, see who’s online, and the list goes on. Isn’t it odd that Christian Mingle gives subscribers all the control they want, yet we wish for less? We’re demanding and maybe a bit old fashioned. Is it too much to ask for an email focus with maybe 1 or 2 other communication options?
  • Christian Mingle is owned by Spark Networks, a corporation with many other online dating sites including non-Christian ones. Like we mentioned on our Best Christian Dating Sites article, we’re not reviewing sites that are exclusively owned by Christian companies; we’re just reviewing the sites that many Christians use to find like-minded believers. That being said, sometimes it feels as if Spark Networks created a site for the online Christian dating stereotype. Take guys + girls + Bible study options + prayer requests, add some chat features and a dash of smiling at each other, top it off with an ichthus logo and voila! A Christian dating site.

Despite our emotional disconnect, we still admit when compared to other online dating sites, Christian Mingle definitely ranks well. Who needs to be emotionally tied to an online dating site anyway? It’s just the vehicle to help you find the person you want to be all emotional about. And, truth be told, Christian Mingle could be a very viable vehicle to get you to him or her.

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  • Dedra Cagle

    I have used Christian Mingle. I do not endorse it myself but I am a loner and it is hard for me to meet people. Of course, I have not found anyone on Christian Mingle. I have done all of the winking, emailing, etc.

    As a whole, I am disappointed in the quality of men – yes, quality (not on the site but in general). The men I have met through friends or at work, etc, have wanted a fling. The commonality of these men were that they asked to video chat and next thing I know, they were pleasing themselves. I quickly closed the video chat and swore to never do that again.

    My opinion is this…dating sites are a step up from meeting someone at the bar but one should still use caution. There are a lot of distasteful men out there as there are women in case any men read my comment.

    I think God can use anything for good. I am patiently waiting. Either I will find someone through Christian Mingle or God will send someone my way. After all, it is His will.

    God Bless,
    Dedra

    • Lettie131

       Sad but true. I found a great guy using Oasis.com. Though not a Christian website it does mean that you have to accept a contact request and you can take your time with the communication. You just have to learn to ask the right questions and listen very carefully to their answers.
      I was told by my guy that most guys will take what they can from ANY woman that will let them, and that so many girls are so desperate for a small piece of attention that they will do anything to get the guy to see them again, Christian or otherwise, even sleeping with them!  Trust me when I say that strategy NEVER works.

  • http://www.sundijo.com Sundi Jo Graham

    I used Christian Mingle several years ago. I struggle with a fear of men anyway, so I thought I’d step out of my comfort zone. After a few conversations, I decided to talk on the phone. After he dropped the f-bomb twice on the phone, I cancelled my membership. 

    Just because the word Christian is in the website, doesn’t mean that’s what it is. It’s certainly made me skeptical. 

    • http://www.singleroots.com/ Jessica Bufkin

       Great point, Sundi Jo.

    • Joseph

      I had a bad experience with a woman on CM. She posted nice pictures of herself and when decided to meet she called me and told me that she is a little over weight only about “60 Ibs” as a Christian,  I did not say anything because I didn’t want to hurt her feelings but slowly I distanced myself, she became outraged and became belligerent because I stopped responding to her emails, calls and texts. Not only that she contacted CM and accused me of being a con artist and a rapist, mind you I never met this woman, and I have only known her through 2 phone calls, 3 emails and 5 texts for a total period of 3 days, (yes only 3 days).

      CM blocked my access without hearing my side of the story. The good thing I have saved all the emails and texts to prove my innocence. I emailed her to say that if I recover any false information about me that I will file a defamation character lawsuit. 

      • http://www.sundijo.com Sundi Jo Graham

        Wow! That’s just crazy.. 

  • http://ikissedmydategoodnight.com/ Ruth Rutherford

    I’ve tried several dating sites, and I don’t think any really compare in quality to the two big ones, eH and Match. I was pressured by friends to try Christian mingle, so I obliged. I found the matching criteria to be “loose” at best. The matches I received were so far from what I was looking for… but the fact that they were Christian meant they were perfect for me, apparently. I didn’t feel that this site actually analyzed or took into account what I’m looking for in a match. In addition, there are simply less people on the site, which means your matches run out a lot more quickly than eH or Match. So, there are my two cents. ;) I’m still single, though, so take it for what it’s worth! (Probably exactly two cents, actually.)

    • http://www.singleroots.com/ Jessica Bufkin

      Ha! We think it’s worth way more than 2 cents! It’s good to hear about quality of matches from as many people as possible because it’s so subjective AND because geography also plays a big part.

      • Jess

        exactly, geography is so crucial!

    • http://www.sundijo.com Sundi Jo Graham

      Enjoyed your two cents. I can’t believe EHarmony charges so much. I can’t talk myself into paying that, unless they plan to pay for the wedding too! :)

      • Nicole M.

        love that idea! if dating sites started paying for weddings, i’m sure they would experience a serious influx of customers!! (myself included)

    • Jess

      It also depends on your location. I’m willing to be that there are A LOT more members on EH and match that live in the US, but in Ontario, Canada there really aren’t very many… :(

  • BLee

    I am a week into Christian Mingle and I must say I have a ‘feeling’ about this site.  Although I am in Canada the only matches I am sent are from the US.  The first day I noticed an advertisement for Drink N Date with ‘racy’ (for lack of a better word) pictures of girls.  I found this offensive as apparently it is supposed to be a Christian site and the reason I signed up.  I emailed them to tell them so.
    And so far the ‘quality’ of men that have contacted me is just plain weird. Some of them read like a script written that is just popped off as an email.  Any that I did respond to never responded back after their first emile or IM to me. Odd.  I even think the first IM I received was generated…it prompted me sign up and take advantage of the 6 month special.  The person has never responded back to me after I was up and running with email and IM access.  I am not a paranoid person but this makes me suspicious.  I received a prompt that I had email and when I checked in nothing was there and still has not shown up.  If I was skeptical of these singles sites before I am even more convinced they are really not in the best interest of the those that sign on.  I am seriously considering asking for a refund.  I don’t know if they will, I might be stuck with it.  I am a Christian woman who believes and has faith in God and if I am not getting a good feeling now it may not be for me. 
    BLee

  • Robbied1202

    I just read over the review written here and then read some of the comments written below. Although I’m sure everyone has different experiences, I have to add that my experience was awesome. I probably looked at hundreds of profiles…occasionally made comments and sent emails and they also came in quite often….I really liked the freedom at which you can puruse the profiles on CM. I had been on eH and felt mostly frustrated while I was on their site, If you don’t like who they send you…you’re stuck for 24 more hours! Another thing that really made me disinterested in eH was that they send you profiles of people with no pictures ALOT and who arent even active members. VERY frustrating!

    I was on Christian Mingle for about 8 months and met 7-8 men. ALL were amazing people, treated me like gold and I am still friends with at least 4 of them and even occasionally text and face book each other….strictly as friends. All of us are pursuing serious relationships at this point. I only had one person to decide he didn’t want to talk again. I think the key is emailing  alot at first….TALK on the phone within a couple days if you think it might be a match and meet within a week, if possible. Otherwise, it’s easy to get involved emotionally over the phone after talking for weeks. I call it an “emotional relationship” or “emotional attachment” THEN when you meet you have a lot of expectations and they may or may not be “REAL” . Kinda easy to set yourself up for a hurt this way.

    I ultimately met a wonderful Christian guy on Plenty of Fish…I was ironically removing my profile from this site when I decided to just look through a few profiles before I deleted my profile. ( I HATED THIS SITE..I  GOT SO MANY CREEPY MESSAGES AND I REALLY JUST WANTED TO MEET A  GREAT CHRISTIAN GUY .I HADN’T BEEN ON THIS SITE FOR ABOUT 4 MONTHS…IT WAS FREE AND I COULDN’T DECIDE WHAT SITE TO JOIN AFTER eH….) The third person I viewed lived with in an hour and a half and I loved how well written his profile was. I wrote him a one liner complimenting him on his profile and didn;t even sign my name. He wrote back and we emailed alot for 4 days, we talked on the phone within 5 days and met in 7 days and fell in love …. Can’t believe it happened  on POF….To me…it was a God Thing!
    I would also say that all communication needs to feel right. You should love reading what they write, you should get a warm feeling when you hear their voice and you should feel comfortable when you meet them….in my experience, if one is missing it’s probably not a “click” or “match”.

    I learned a lot while dating online. I’m definitely not an expert!  I’m only speaking from my experience. At 53, I never dreamed I’d be blessed to meet so many amazing Christian men. I know there are a lot of creeps out there,(men and women) but there are also alot of wonderful men/ women who just want to find someone to fall in love with.

    Robin

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  • Joe

    Christian mingle doesn’t have much Christians either. Many just state that they are but none actually know the true gospel ( no I’m not supporting self righteousness and saying I’m better) I’m just saying that by looking in the chat rooms and what not. I love spreading the good news. When I stated anybody want to talk about the bible only about 2 replied. People were talking about gays being gays, more girls for them because of gays. Just a site I wouldn’t participate any more. Trust me you do not need to find someone on a dating site. Do it the old fashion way and meet people. Do not fear what someone will say to you. So what if you get a rejection? There loss. God has plans for you so don’t worry about some dating site. God will put you with somebody. Ask and it will be given to you.

    • Helmut

      Thanks for the cautious piece of advice.

    • Leelo dallasmultipas

      Maybe God’s plan was for your to visit a dating site?
      Why are God and technology always combating?

  • http://twitter.com/runismymantra Single&Picky

    I just cancelled my free membership with CM for a few reasons, some based in the actual product.  Those being that they’ve really eliminated any ability to use it as a free service, and they maintain this by a double standard of allowing men to indicate they are not a member or placing their contact information in places in their profile, but being ridiculously stringent on the content of female profiles.  I was not permitted to indicate I was not a member and so please don’t be offended if I do not email back. I wasn’t also able to reciprocate chats which they once did allow years ago when I first tried it for free.

    That issue aside, I think my other issues are likely not limited to CM but maybe more obvious on their site.  I was almost entirely save for maybe two men, contacted by individuals who were well outside of my intended matches, either 20+years older, well out of my desired area or completely not compatible.  I found that every time I logged in it was like being a bar and having to repel endless drunk idiots and frankly that’s why I was using CM to weed through that.  Lastly while I’m likely picky, I have to say the lack of expectation is disheartening,  I wish CM would have a base level of profile presentation – like no slang and at least one sentence present.  Makes me wonder what has happened to my generation when their attempt to find a mate begins with lol, gud or kool.

  • Margaret

    They scare me. I had trouble joining and they want my bank statement, credit card statement etc. This is what they sent me by email:
    I apologize for the confusion. Your original transaction was automatically
    voided because it was flagged as possibly fraudulent. We canceled the
    transaction to protect you in case the account number was being used without
    your consent. The charge will completely drop from your statement within the
    next 2-3 business days.

    If you would still like to be a member of ChristianMingle you can fax or
    scan and attach the following:

    1. A copy a recent, institution issued statement (such as a bank, credit
    card or utility bill) verifying the billing information entered.

    2. A valid, government issued photo ID.

    Once these documents have been received, reviewed and verified, we would be
    happy to activate you membership again. Please note, you can block out account
    numbers, transactions and balances listed on the statement.

    If you are scanning the documents, please reply to this message and add the
    file as an attachment. If you are faxing, our number is: 866-945-5209. Please
    indicate “Attention: Anna or Anthony”, you will need to include the email
    address you used to create your account.
    What do you think? Would you send them all of your personal information. I don’t think so.

    • Eddie Villescas

      I was about to join, but, after reading some comments, I decided not too. I’m 47 hispanic, educated, but don’t have time for games. Thank you all and may God bless you in everything you all do!!!!

    • cin

      y i k e s !!!

  • kmh

    I used Christian Mingle and really dislike it. In my opinion it was a waste of money. When you fill out your profile, you list your preferences. What you get it is lots of matches based only on your preferences. So, I would have to go and look at each person’s preferences and most of the time I was too old or not fit enough. It’s simple enough with computers to see if we match each others preferences.

    Then there’s the whole issue of the auto-renewal contract. Yes, you do get an email when you first join that it’s set up to auto renewal. I should have been able to turn off that option when I first signed up. And of course they refuse to give refunds.

    They do nothing to protect their subscribers from scams or worse. One of their little buttons even lets you ask for their email.

    This may supposedly be a Christian dating site, but the business is definitely not Christian. They’re just in it to make money.

  • AmbiVictoria

    Christian Mingle seems to not support interracial couples / marriage, as mostly every inspirational love story they have promoted on their site are with only same raced couples and the women are size 1 and very blonde. I feel if a site is trying to cater to many different people nationwide, it would do more to reach out to everyone. Also, I like the attachment site believe.com and the Christian articles / bible study – besides that- CM would not be Christian like at all. Not many authentic profiles to choose from especially in your local radius and after you browse the site their pricing format seems not worth it. You maybe entertained, but probably wont meet the attainable realistic Christian man / woman of your dreams there. Better chances off line.

  • contrary

    Christian Mingle may try and be legitimate but I personally know of a married man who claimed he was divorced and was searching for someone. This fellow has and will have an addictive personality all his life, has no friends and lies and cheats continually. I want to warn the women on this site to be cautious, be aware of all those they meet on here and always keep their eyes open. Yes, he may be looking for a Christian but if his wife took 8 yeara to find this out then imagine how he can fool women. Looks are deceiving and the lying unbearable. I can say I was once a friend of this man and he will never find better.

  • Karl Schneider
    • John

      Stay classy, Karl.

      • Lori

        geeze…some people…karl, i will pray for you…since you believe God isn’t real, that shouldn’t bother you :)

  • Lori

    So, does anyone out there have a positive story about online dating?? cause I gotta say this is looking pretty bleak. I was tempted to try Christian mingle on the advice of a guy friend, but that is so out of my area of expertise. I have never dated someone i have met online, or put myself on a website like that. I am a devout Christian, and i think that is how sites like this draw people in gain users, by tacking the word Christian on it. I am still praying and relying on God to steer me in the right path.

    • Frank

      LOL! Sorry, really funny. I hear you, sister. This site should be a portal through which all Christians go when they want to sign up for an online dating service. They have to read it first. If you read it and DON’T despair, you’re good to move on to the next level. They have passed the test. “Sorry, Mario, but the princess is in another castle!”

    • Leell dallasmultipas

      It is too bad that you dismiss online sayin merely because you have never done it before, could be an indicator as to why you are single (or were single). As to whether there are success stories from dating sites I would say of course! There are ratio of success to failure is probably equal from a real life attempt and an online one! :-D

  • maria

    I definitely do not recommend this service. It is very difficult to get in touche with anyone directly. No phone number on their site. MY membership was renewed without my knowledge. I disputed it with American Express and they put a hold on the charge. In the mean time Christian Mingles blocked me from using the site, stopped sending daily matches, etc. When American Express went ahead and allowed the charge, I called them to explain that I had been blocked out of the website for one month. They gave me a contact number at Chrisitian Mingles. I called and explained that since I had not been able to get into the site for one month, they should credit my account or give me an extra month to make up for it. They were rigid, unsympathetic, and rude, and would not do anything. In the mean time I still cannot get into their site, am getting no emails, but am being charged. How can they claim to be Christian?

  • Maria

    Stay away from this site.

  • Susun

    I had CM. membership for a few hours before I called my C.C. company to dispute charges, they readily agreed. This site has mega advertisements along w/ pop up potential porn sites w/ seductive women, please they know but when I contacted them they acted unaware and actually blamed my computer. Really? I am only one who uses it.

    I was scamed by a male “widower” profile in less then a hour of service, trying to play the sympathy card and get my email address to ask for money.

    Need more info? google C.M scams: you will have hours of reading posted by women who trusted the word “christian” and got taken bigtime. Fight back if you experience this, you have rights! They should be called Swingle.

  • Member&CMfan

    I am a big fan of Christian Mingle. I live in a small town in a state with a small population. There is nothing here for single adults except the bar scene. There will always be nominal “Christians” as we’ll as a few wolves in sheep’s clothing, but that’s for me to discern. I signed up for Plenty of Fish because I knew a couple (now married) who met that way. I was literally flooded with messages from men ranging from 27 to 76 though I specified my age and a preference. It was so overwhelming that I cancelled after less than a week. I like the communication options of Christian Mingle. I haven’t written on the prayer wall or taken the Bible study and probably won’t, but I like it that they are there. It takes a bit of courage for a man to register on a site with Christian in the name when there are so many others. From my experience, the yuck factor is less with Christian Mingle.

  • mnurs

    I’ve signed up for Christian Mingle only a few days ago, and I am running into the problem of not being able to reciprocate and send email to those who contacted me. I don’t wish to pay a membership fee, yet how am I to contact these men? I’m confused, will probably end up deleting my profile. I should also mention that I have a strange feeling about some of the things I’m encountering on this widely publicized dating site.

  • Francis Brydon

    I did not enjoy my experience on ChristianMingle,at all! So many people calling themselves Christian,have no clue what a Christian is. People that spell “God” with a small “g” are not sharing my mind-set towards Him, at all! The name “Christian”, has been taken out of Biblical context in our age. Trying to meet true, born-again, Jesus only, King James only,praying, Bible studying, church faithful, sisters in Christ, will not likely happen in a worldly-polluted, online dating site like ChristianMingle!

  • Clev

    I’ve tried it for a year now and I’m not a fan, your criteria for a match are not used very often, a lot of the people your matched with do not have photos, and for me it’s very important for me to put a face with a name, especially when I’m talking to someone online, even though it could just be a random picture the person got somewhere on the internet. I’ve found that to be the case with several people women on christian mingle, and one of them wasn’t even a women, so you have to be careful because you can run into some of the same dangers that you would with any matching website.
    As for the control that you supposedly get, it doesn’t really matter, because you’ll get matched with people that don’t match your criteria which doesn’t give you much control over your matches. I really would rate the CM as a 1 star site because most of the features don’t help you all that much. I also take issue with some of the adds on christian mingle, especially the one that says, “What a man really wants,” coupled witht the photo of a man looking away from the woman he’s supposedly with.

  • Jess

    In my experience, you’ve got have a pretty thick skin in order not to let a lack of responses get to you. It can be a real blow to the self-esteem to not hear back from guys you emailed for a while.
    My advice is don’t take anything personally – especially in the beginning. Are there any good Christian guys out there online? I’m sure there must be, but I certainly haven’t met any of them yet…

  • Glory

    I am a member of this site last year, and met a guy who is a good christian man, however,the long distance didn’t work. I came back to this site, well, havn’t met any guy yet, it is just a try, The reality is every site has bad and good guys there. Guard your heart, and pick up your date carefully. I will just take it as a learning experiences.

  • giggles

    Does anyone know the cancellation number for christian mingle?

  • Victoria Hayden

    I cannot recommend Christian Mingle. I have been emailed by more “fake” people on Christian Mingle than on any site I have ever been on–Christian or secular. The profiles are fake. The photos are fake. And the language in the emails sounds foreign, as if English were their second language. I contacted a Sheriff in Santa Cruz about one person with an obviously fake address. If I can do such obvious and easy detective work, surely Christian Mingle can. Someone is going to get hurt some day. I should be able to feel reasonably safe on a Christian site. They should spend less money on advertising and more money on screening their posts.

  • spiff

    This is taking the lord’s name in vein to a whole new level. This sin has destroyed my family leaving over one million dollars in unmitigated damage. This website introduced my mother in law to the perp within minutes. This vanity has destroyed many lives. If you sign up, you are a sinner. The wages of this sin is indescribable.

  • Lisa Brooks

    Christian mingle is a cold site. The people on it are rude and clickish. The site seems to be very cold. The bad thing is when you pay for the service your stuck with it for six months!!!

  • Debbie

    Like many I thought I’d give this a shot since the number of single men, in my age range, is minimal at my church or community group and I don’t think there are a handful of men where I work that are single. The layout of the site seems to be a cookie-cutter, online-dating site, more interested in making money than actually serving the Christian population in finding compatible matches. You can’t try a site out if you can’t communicate and you can’t even read mail that someone sends you without paying for a subscription. I could understand not being able to send but you should be able to read them. I was about ready to pay for a more thorough attempt and actually read messages sent but I wanted to get an updated photo as well as my favorite photo uploaded first so I didn’t waste money during the photo approval process—money is tight. They decided where to crop my photo for a thumbnail, not scaled but cropped, and completely eliminated the favorite part of the photo I wanted people to see at a glance. You can’t tell me it was anything offensive as it was me in a posed picture with a real dolphin (from the SeaWorld dolphin encounter) … they cropped it to an unattractive, wet headshot. Maybe I’m more naive than I should be but I find it hard to believe that any Christian employee (we’re talking about a Christian dating site) would change a fun, non-offensive picture into a boring, just another less-than-attractive face pic. If it was all automated I might understand it but the cropping was not to the center of the photo. The dolphin’s face is more center than mine. If they’re using facial recognition software and automated formulas for the process why would it take 48 hours—this is human intervention approval. After not being able to read emails that were sent to me the photo manipulation just screamed money-making rather than a service that actually cared about people. Again maybe I’m naive but I expect a Christian branded site to at least pretend to care about people and their feelings.

  • Jeff

    Don’t get suckered into a relationship with Christian Mingle. There is also no such person as “Cara” – it’s a euphemism for Customer “Cara”. Anyway, I signed up in 2006 and had a scam artist (woman) complain about me after I told her she was just that, a scam artist, for trying to get me to send money. “Cara” sent me a warning after the scam artist complained that I was rude to her without even asking my side of the story. Then later I actually found someone on CM in 2010, from Australia, and we dated for two years. It ended because we were two different nationalities and neither of us could easily work in the others’ country. She married a fellow Australian, but we remain close friends. She suggested I try CM again, and I could not log in nor make a new profile. I wrote to CM and “Cara” said I had been deleted for rude comments, etc. without further explanation. I have no idea when that happened along the way, but this woman who calls herself “Cara” (or whomever it is) is extremely rude too. I told this individual exactly what I thought of this, and I’m even going to call them. But then, think – CM is part of Spark Networks, which has dating sites for all manner of people, from Mormons to lots of secular sites. By no means are they Christian only. These people are bad news and they really don’t care about the individual. Whomever “Cara” is, needs to be fired.

  • Disappointedhopeful

    I was massively disappointed with Christian Mingle.A few of the guys that I did find attractive were scammers (and there were very few I did find attractive, not being snooty just need to have the chemistry, inside and out. Others describe me as very attractive, fit and young looking for my age of 61, most people think 40′s and a good personality) Not to say if someone was nice enough looking I would want to be with them if their heart was not in the right place, I just want, I am guessing, that probably most want, the combination of qualities, whatever that is that works best for each of us . I don’t know what the scammers point was, but the pattern was the same. They selected me, in one case I selected one. They all were highly excited and complimentary of me, wanted my email, some my phone. I had a dialogue on email with them and the next day they disappeared, profile completely gone. When I checked with Christian Mingle by their online name, for whatever the reason, CM had pulled their profile, by CM standards something wasn’t right about their profile.. Very upsetting.such stuff on a Christian site for one and very disappointing to me. I hoped I would get a feel for what it is like to be single, especially at my age, these guys led me to think ok, not all bad, there are some people out there for me, not even necessarily them, but some guys I could want to at least learn a little about. Maybe 3 good and 5 or more turned out to be scams as I described. I CLING to the comfort that in the end God will lead me to the life he has planned for me.

  • jennifer120

    My name is jennifer, from usa I never believed in love spells or magic until i met this spell caster once when i went to Africa in February this year on a business summit. I meant a man who’s name is DR.madurai he is really powerful and could help cast spells to bring back one’s gone, lost, misbehaving lover and magic money spell or spell for a good job or luck spell .I’m now happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me 3 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 6years. I really loved him, but his mother was against us and he had no good paying job. So when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him. At first i was undecided, skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. And in 7 days when i returned to usa, my boyfriend (now husband) called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married. I didn’t believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all i wanted him to do. Well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid, and my husband also got the new job and our lives became much better. His email is maduraitemple@yahoo.com

  • newbie

    I would totally not recommend Christian Mingle, I joined few days ago and now I can’t login after a few attempts of resetting password.

  • Tinkerbell

    OK, I have to be a little honest and harsh here. I am on CM and have so many emails from quality and not so quality men I can’t even go through them it. I still have 10 pages of emails. However, I am known to be an attractive woman and I’m 29. On the other hand, I’ve gone to the forums, which I love personally, and have seen the people who complain about not getting a response back from their emails. Well, the people are often not very attractive (I’m sorry to be honest), their profiles lack any substance, their profiles have way too much information in them, or they only attend church “on special occasions.” I don’t even think it has so much to do with the pictures than it does with some of the aweful profiles I see on there. Some people clearly do not even take two minutes to mention their likes, hobbies, or worse, GOD. In my opinion, it’s very telling. If you have good pictures, a good profile, a discerning eye then you will find someone. Oh, and you will want to look even across the US. I found few quality men in my city, but I’m talking to a nice guy in Michigan. Love doesn’t just exist within 50 miles of you.

  • Blockheadnc

    Since I signed up for Christian Mingles, I was introduced to a felon, someone who only wanted a one night stand and a scan artist trying to take my money. It’s a same that a dating website that is supposed to focus on matching Christians with other Christians had so many non-Christians on the site. It’s one thing to quote bible scripture but it’s another thing to live bible scripture. My membership is expiring in a couple of days and I’m not renewing my membership. I thought this would be a safe place to meet people but I found that I have to be more careful on this site that others I’ve used in the past. All I can do is pray for those who are trying to use those who are looking for a God loving mate and are getting scammed in return. Pray that God will touch their hearts and show them convictions of their actions.

  • Sam

    I tried Christian Mingle a couple of years ago one it’s kind of a dead place
    2 just because it says “Christian” doesn’t mean it’s safe from fakes and frauds.
    I had a guy give me a “worthiness of his love” questionnaire it was kind of funny
    because he threw me out all sorts of questions about weather I was a virgin or not
    or if I knew the bible to a T and made me feel like if I wasn’t perfect in his idea I wouldn’t
    have a chance in the fiery furnace…then had an experience with a guy that kept mailing me gifts
    and requesting I do it too, he mailed me his shirts and gym shorts…LOL! anyways…I’m not a materialistic person
    and I don’t have money to spend it’s not that I’m cheap it’s just that I literally am flat broke and can’t, and he was pushing marriage
    and telling me when I’m gonna have his kids …even BIGGER LOL!
    I guess if you want some amusement and a good laugh Christian Mingle is a good comedy spot. it’s full of Kooks

  • Serendipity

    I met my husband on Christian Mingle. I have friends who have met their husbands on match and eharmony. I wanted to meet a man who was a God fearing man. I signed up for the 6 month memvership and cancelled after meeting my husband during my 3rd month of membership. It would have been nice if there was a way to transfer any unused portion to someone since there are no refunds. Also I never used or looked at the prayer walls or chat rooms.