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eHarmony Review 2013 :: Christian Singles Tell It Like It Is

January 25, 2013 by 9 Comments

Have you used eHarmony before? What are your thoughts?

Before we started this whole Best Christian Dating Sites review process, we would’ve bet that more Christians have tried eHarmony than any of the other sites. So we decided to do an eHarmony review first. Because, well, the members of the SingleRoots team have tried it, and a lot of our friends have, too.

In fact, when most (married) people pat us on the arm and ask us if we’ve tried online dating, they don’t even use the term “online dating.” They say, “Have you thought about getting on eHarmony?”

It’s the go-to site.

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And our initial research indicated that of the people we interviewed, more of them had tried eHarmony than any other Christian dating site.

While people might dislike it, we’ve found it seems to be a site that more of us are comfortable with—flaws and all.

Maybe it’s the fact that our profiles aren’t thrown into a sea of other profiles where everyone and their brother or sister has access to it.

Or, maybe it’s the fact that it was founded by Dr. Neil Clark Warren, a man who’s supposedly on “our” team, and we trust “our” people, even if their company isn’t explicitly “Christian.” (Christians jump on Christian bandwagons? Noooo. Never.)

Then again, it could just be that it’s one of the industry leaders and one of the first to market itself to Christians.

For whatever reason, we don’t think it’s too much of an overgeneralization to say that a lot of Christians try eHarmony first.

But that’s not why it scored so well in our rating of the Best Christian Dating Sites. Since it did score so highly, though, we thought we’d do an eHarmony review as our first individual one.

eHarmony Review :: Pros

  • The site is easy to use. It has a modern, clean feel to it, and it doesn’t take a college degree in computers to figure out how to navigate it. There aren’t a lot of extra bells and whistles to eHarmony that you find on other sites. While some may see this as a “con,” when compared with how confusing those others’ bells and whistles are, we see it as refreshing.
  • Finding like-minded Christians on other sites can be like finding a needle in a haystack sometimes. Depending on the site, you might have to read a lot of text on a lot of profiles to decide if someone calls him/herself a “Christian” in name only or if he/she loves the Lord wholeheartedly and lives to serve Him. While eHarmony is not perfect, there’s something to be said for their 29 Dimensions of Compatibility testing (as lengthy as it may be). That, combined with stricter setting options for choosing how important commonalities in faith are with your matches, help give eHarmony a slight edge in this department.
  • Another pro is the very thing we mentioned above: the sheer number of people on the site. It’s one of the biggest, and chances are, you’re not going to run out of matches anytime soon with as many new members as they add daily. When it comes to dating, can you really have too many options? Exactly.

eHarmony Review :: Cons

  • eHarmony can be slightly expensive when signing up for one month only. $59.95 ain’t cheap. But, they do offer discounts if you buy in bulk. Not Costco bulk, but more than one month at a time bulk.
  • One of our biggest complaints is that if someone is not a paying member, you have no way of knowing. So, while eHarmony has a ton of members, they also have a ton of non-paying ones as well. That profile with the cute guy/girl who leaks Jesus and seems like the perfect match for you? Well, he/she may or may not be able to communicate with you because he/she may or may not still be a member. This is a big detractor, but we can’t dock eHarmony too much in this area since it is not the only site that allows this to occur. However, if you decide to shell out major bucks and get their Premier membership, they’ll allow you to communicate with anyone–even non-paying members. But the average consumer doesn’t have that kind of money set aside for online dating.
  • The other issue that most people have is the inability to see the entire database of eHarmony profiles. This isn’t a problem if you believe slow and steady wins the race since eHarmony sends you up to 7 profiles daily for your review. But if you’re a marathon dater…well, marathon daters aren’t taking the time to read this post anyway, so nevermind.

With that said, in our unbiased and impartial opinion, we think that eHarmony is the best Christian dating site for your buck right now.

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  • http://www.RebekahHopes.blogspot.com Bekah Hope

    My best friend met her fiance on eHarmony. They’re getting married this July. Before that, her older sister met her husband on eHarmony. So of course I’ve tried it. In the beginning I liked it. It actually matched me with the husband of a friend of mine (whoops – his account shouldn’t have still been active!) so I knew it was matching me with the right kind of people. I met someone via the site that it ended up not working out with.. but regardless I signed up for another 3 month subscription. (they almost always have coupons/specials to get subscriptions for $15-$20 a month – just hunt for them!)

    The second go-round I wasn’t as impressed. After a month I got fewer and fewer matches each day (if any) and those I did get were mostly duds. Men who were OBVIOUSLY not even claiming to be Christians in their profiles, or who scarcely mentioned the name of God. I felt like I was still looking for a needle in a haystack regardless of those 29 dimensions. Really? If we don’t have Christ in common what do all those other areas of compatibility matter?

    I also had a subscription to Christian Cafe. I’d joined with a free subscription at first. And I didn’t like the format much. Browsing profiles and giving ANYONE the ability to browse mine or contact me didn’t appeal much. But I liked that it was easier to sort out denominations.

    Regardless of my reservations, I was contacted on Christian Cafe by a wonderful Christian man who I will be meeting in the next couple of weeks. So it can work!

    • SingleRoots Team

      You’re right, Bekah, it is nice to be able to sort out denominations on Christian Cafe, but you can do that on eHarmony, too, in your settings. You can also place the level of importance at “very” and that usually helps with the results. The format of Christian Cafe is the biggest reason we have a hard time recommending it over eHarmony. It’s so cluttered and difficult to maneuver.

      How exciting that you’re meeting someone! Good luck!

    • Mary

      I’ve been on eharmony for years. Originally tried to fill out the profile and it said I was not campatible! I paid for months and months at a time and had 1 date with a guy I’m fairly sure isn’t a Christian, and that was within a few weeks of signing up. I only ever get emails on free communication weekends. I live in a big city…

  • Ryan S.

    I can think of 4 Christian couples I know that met online and are now married — they all met on eHarmony.

  • http://ikissedmydategoodnight.com Ruth Rutherford

    The problem I’ve been having recently with eHarmony is that I get no matches. Literally. A week or two go by and I don’t get one match. How lame is that? My “requirements” are not too picky (a Christian and a non-murderer?), and I live in a big city (Washington, D.C.!). What gives, eHarmony? I wish there was a way to cancel my membership if I don’t get any new matches over a certain amount of time. Otherwise, what am I paying for???

    • SingleRoots Team

      We think you’re asking a bit much for a non-murderer. Come now, Ruth. ;)

      Most of the time, people who live in a smaller town with narrowed distance settings run into the lessening matches problem, but with you living in the DC area, that is a BIG negative.

      Did you pay for several months in advance? Have you emailed them to ask about it?

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts. We want to hear the good and bad so that people can make the most informed decisions.

  • butterfly

    I’d like the sites to only show matches for my saved filter. Exclude out of state, etc. Eharmony interface (mobile droid or web) is terrible. Too cumbersome to scroll a lot of “matches that are not a match. The service is too expensive for showing members that cannot communicate. Also, the recently deleted the closed folder so if you accidentally close someone you cant get access to reverse. For saving resources, they should only show true matches of active members and keep the closed with periodic mandatory delete.also have an option to view “inactive member” matches.

  • Inquisitive

    I struggle to accept e-harmony at any level due to immorality being advocated by the owner, Neil Clark Warren. Rather than fight the homosexual agenda, he caved to it, and formed a “branch” of e-harmony that matches immoral people together. That stated, that is also done on E-harmony. At least the other Christian websites advocate that you are to be single, and of Christian morality. E-harmony asked my “sexual activity” level during their sign up process, and I closed out of it immediately and said, “hmm….so Mr. Warren wants me to match with others who are “sexually as active” as I am? So basically, NCW is profiting off of not only Christian singles, but he is also profiting off of single people of other faiths. To me that is profiteering for money. His philosophy has been reviewed by Focus on the Family and FOF removed their support of E-harmony for these very reasons. I wrote FOF years ago, before they unsupported e-harmony, explaining what NCW was doing as a Christian businessman. A couple years later, FOF dropped their support. I don’t think it was just me complaining.
    I figure..yeah, so a non-Christian figures out how to make matches and make money off it, and I can more easily do that “online” service, because a non-Christian business man is not profiting nor encouraging people to find people of the same faith – thus having removed the “Christian” evangelism part of the equation in the dating realm. But for a Christian business man to profit off of needy people of all “faiths” and “moralities” deeply disturbs my conscience so as to ask…”so…is it ok to support pornography, sexual immorality – even if “homo or hetero”? That one question was enough of a warning light to me, that not one dollar of my money belongs in the pocket of that type of businessman, when he states he is a Christian “teacher” yet, profits off of immorality. Yes…he says he lost the “lawsuit”. I say, no…he didn’t lose the lawsuit, I think he possibly lost his soul in promoting such “sexual sin” and “faith advocacy” of promoting getting people together, and making money off it, when it has removed the righteous intention we should all have of bring people to Christ. I will celebrate the weddings of my friends of other faiths and religions, but I am not a Christian, to let them give me money to just let them “relationally find the love of their life” by paying a Christian to keep them in a false religion. That inconsistency really bothers me.

    • Inquisitive

      to clarify the statement “I am not a Christian”…what I mean is…Christians should be advocating sexual morality and evanglizing the lost, single or married, and to “match” people just on “love of their life”, ignores that principle of Christianity, and….I struggle to see that is how a Christian should ever act. Thus I said “I am not a Christian” but the better way to say it would have been “I am not acting like a Christian, to let them…to keep them in a false religion.” And that is why that inconsistency really bothers me. “A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.”