Since Denise lives in the Ft. Lauderdale, Florida, area, you’d think she would have her pick of guys on Christian Café. Many think success in Christian online dating has everything to do with location, but Denise’s three months in our Online Dating Experiment haven’t exactly produced a multitude of dates.
Let’s get down to numbers: In your 3 months of online dating, how many guys/girls have you actually communicated with: How many have you talked on the phone and/or texted with? How many have you gone on dates with? How many had real potential, even if it didn’t work out?
Are there any reasons you think your online dating experience is exceptional or atypical?
Denise: I think that my experience is atypical. And I’m beginning to wonder if I did it wrong? There were no potential suitors or even interactions further than a wink in either direction. Is a wink no longer an acceptable form of initiation or flirting? Are my answers to the more in-depth questions not witty or charming enough? Is my profile picture too unattractive? Should I have taken a bathroom selfie? I mean, I didn’t even get one good dating horror story out of this adventure!
Are you planning to continue online dating? If so, would you use the same site or try a different one?
Denise: I’m considering continuing online dating, but I am sure that if I do, I would switch sites. Not enough people are on Christian Cafe. It’s too obscure. I think that I looked through every profile that would be “my type” in the first month. There were no new matches throughout the three-month span.
You’ve been on this online dating venture for 3 months now. What one word would you use to sum it up?
Denise: Anticlimactic. I think I went in with expectations that were way too high. The few friends that I told pumped it up with excitement, and I quickly caught the bug. I dreamt about enjoying the summer in Ft. Lauderdale with a guy I just met, and I got butterflies! I would be Sandy and the boy, Danny, and we’d dance around singing “You’re the One that I Want” at the carnival as all my friends gazed on with joy at my new love. When not even one potential date contacted me, disappointed ensued. And the plots I made up in my head about my summer romance all fizzled.
Would you recommend other people try online dating?
Denise: I suppose so. Even though it was a total bust for me, it’s a risk that I think is worth taking. Maybe others will have a better experience than I did!
Have you tried Christian Café? Was your experience similar to Denise’s or not?