Let’s Talk About Porn

My first sample of pornographic material appeared while I was browsing late night TV the summer after my 8th grade year. What was happening in front of me was shocking, yet I kept changing the channel and then coming back to it, unable to fight the allure of discovering the true form of a woman for the first time.

Let's Talk About Porn

I discovered when I was 17 years old there were limitless temptations to be found online and seemingly no repercussions to follow. Even after dealing with my parents discovering pornography on the computer, the temptation was too strong and I learned one thing: Don’t get caught. Like so many other addictions in my life, I struggled in secret for years.

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What If My Church Has a Lame Singles Ministry?

Listen, we’ll be the first to say that in the past, churches have largely ignored singles and their ministries to them have generally been an afterthought. But in our five years of existence, we’re encouraged by the conversations we’re seeing take place about how churches can better include singles within the Body.

What If My Church Has a Lame Singles Ministry?

Whether or not your church has an actual singles ministry or integrates singles into small groups that are not marriage-specific, we need to keep in mind that there’s not a one-size-fits-all approach to singles ministry today.

“Lame” can mean a lot of different things. But if you think your church’s ministry to singles–whatever it may be–is indeed “lame,” then let’s talk about how you can be an agent of change instead of a complainer. Because goodness knows the Church doesn’t need any more complainers…

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25 Things Singles Should Know

I went on a 9-hour road trip with one of my best friends recently, which means 9 hours of conversation about everything that is right and wrong with the world. On our journey, we read aloud 2 of Relevant Magazine’s articles: 20 Things Every Twentysomething Should Know How to Do and The Before You’re 40 Bucketlist.

25 Things Singles Should Know

After determining that we’d accomplished 15 of the 20 things we’re supposed to do before 40, and wholeheartedly agreeing with the things a twentysomething should know, our conversation turned to singleness. [Read more…]

How Can I Overcome My Struggle to Commit to a Church?

Singles are notorious for not committing to the local church. No-tor-ious. They feel slighted and like an afterthought. And while it makes us sad that it feels like the church places a higher emphasis on marriage than it does singleness, we are seeing this tide turn and we’re hopeful for the future.

How can I overcome my struggle to commit to a church?

One thing we do know, though, is not committing to a local church is not optional. So singles groups aren’t your thing? Okay, that’s fine, but keep fighting to find your place. The Church needs singles just as much as singles need Her.

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Resisting Spiritual Blessings: Pushing Back on the Things I Don’t Like

So I know I’m the only one, but I have some opinions about things. Lots. Just a few.

And I’ve been known to draw a line in the sand a time or two and resist certain things based on principle (or stubbornness, arrogance, or sometimes just plain stupidity). Most of the time, my resistance is not because the things are necessarily bad, but rather because of a personal preference or a prejudice that I’ve developed based on my experience or advice of others. I generally try to be an open-minded person, but several times I’ve shutdown any and all willingness to compromise on certain matters.

Resisting Spiritual Blessings: Pushing Back on the Things I Don't Like

1. Cruises

I am a planner. I love to plan and organize everything, and I’d plan and organize your life, too, if you’d let me. If vacation planning were a spiritual gift, I think it would be one of mine. Considering how much I love the act of planning itself, I’m not a big fan of cruises. They just don’t require the use of my spiritual gift of vacation planning, like say, a trip to Europe does. You show up, get on a boat, eat a lot of food, dock, sight see (from a list of planned activities), get back on the boat, and repeat. I just think it sounds a little…boring. So I’ve never been on one, and I might be a little snobbish about it. I’m okay with that.

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