7 Ways Married Couples Can Serve Singles in the Church

As we began this SingleRoots journey, we were blessed by many of our married friends who supported and prayed for us. So many times we hear from them that the things we publish on the site are not just for single people and how they, too, have been encouraged by what they’ve read.

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Recently we received an email from a married couple asking us how marrieds can serve singles in the church. We were so grateful for this couple’s heart. Truth be told, it caused us to step away from the computer and take a moment to praise the Lord for how He’s building up His Body—all parts of it.

How can marrieds serve singles in today’s church?

It seems like such a simple question, doesn’t it? [Read more…]

Single and…Helping to Plant a Church

Editor’s Note: This is another installment in our “Single and…” series where we will interview singles from all walks of life. It is our hope that you are encouraged by the stories of people who have a similar journey as you, who share the same dreams you have, who face the same hurdles you do, and who can remind you that you are not alone.

We love hearing about any single who is living counter-culturally, especially those who say, “Why not?” when considering something offbeat, like moving across the state to join in the work God is doing in another city.

Single and Planting a Church

We first met Matt Moore last year through some mutual college friends. We’d heard a lot about his blog and his testimony about coming to Christ just a few years ago from a lifestyle of homosexuality, but one of the things that most intrigued us about Matt was how he, along with our friends, was moving to New Orleans to help plant a church.

Of course we had a ton of questions, like Why? How? And…WHERE? We caught up with Matt recently, and here’s what he had to say about being a part of a church plant as a single adult:

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The Struggle to Find My Place in the Church

I just needed a break.

I had been involved in various part-time ministry positions for years, not to mention teaching full-time and finishing seminary.

So when I ended my term as an interim children’s minister, I decided to take some time off and sort through the details of my life—like if traditional church staff roles were even what I was supposed to be doing.

The Struggle to Find My Place in the Church
What I really needed was to be a follower and not a leader for a little while. Of course, I would still be involved in serving the church, but I was in a season of life where I needed people to pour into me. I needed them to remind me that I was deeply loved and to tell me it was okay that I had no idea where my life was headed.

When I finally got over my pride and allowed myself to admit that I needed respite, it was as if I was able to breathe again.
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Finding a Church When You’re Single (in GIFs) :: Because Sometimes Words Just Aren’t Enough

We’ve all been there: Driving up to the church parking lot, debating whether or not to park in “visitor parking” and thus call further attention to our presence. Turning off the car and gathering all of our courage and determination—as well as a few accountability texts from our friends—and walking toward the worship center. Our eyes shifting to and fro, surveying the scene and looking for friendly faces, all the while hoping we can just slip in quietly and observe this first Sunday without much fanfare.

Finding a Church When You're Single (in GIFs)

But there’s no “we” in this process, is there? “We” have all been there, but when it happened, “we” were all alone. Just an “I.”  As usual, we have to laugh about it because the only other option is to curl up in a ball in the corner and cry laughter is the best medicine. Maybe you can relate to some of these…

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What If I Don’t Like the Singles Ministry at My Church?

Today we’re featuring one of the questions we tackle in our free revised eBook, When Will I Get Married? (and 8 Other Questions that Plague Singles). Sign up in the box on the right to become a SingleRoots email subscriber and download your free copy today!

Do you remember ever reading about a singles group in the Bible?

Did Jesus only hang with the single disciples? Um, no. Were Paul and his entourage exclusively single? No, married people were included. Did some of the prophets get frustrated because they couldn’t find a church with an active, age-graded singles ministry?  No, they had bigger fish to fry such as golden calves, Israel’s disobedience, and the brutality of the Babylonians, just to name a few.

Singles MinistriesThe fact of the matter is singles ministries, while tools for spiritual growth, ministry, and connecting us to a larger community, are not Biblical mandates. They are great avenues for broadening your social circles, but they also have a way of separating us from that same larger church community. [Read more…]