The Safest and Dearest Place on Earth?

Families are a funny thing. As Jerry tells us in While You Were Sleeping, “You’re born into a family. You do not join them like you do the Marines.” Our families are an integral part of our growing up experience and our first taste of community. At a very early age, before we have ever heard the word “community,” we are already creating an idea of what it is, what it looks like, how it functions.

The Safest and Dearest Place on Earth?

I grew up in a Christian home with parents who were wonderfully committed to the idea and practice of family. Date night for Mom and Dad and Family Night for all of us were on every weekly calendar. It was a non-negotiable for us. Even when we started growing up and getting jobs, family night still took priority.

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25 Things Singles Should Know

I went on a 9-hour road trip with one of my best friends last week, which means 9 hours of conversation about everything that is right and wrong with the world. On our journey, we read aloud 2 of Relevant Magazine’s most recent articles: 20 Things Every Twentysomething Should Know How to Do and The Before You’re 40 Bucketlist.

25 Things Singles Should Know

After determining that we’d accomplished 15 of the 20 things we’re supposed to do before 40, and wholeheartedly agreeing with the things a twentysomething should know, our conversation turned to singleness. [Read more...]

Jesus and the Suffering Single

As I sat there in my church’s Good Friday service, I thought about a ton of things. Besides the obvious, two things came into my heart. First, I thought about the fact that we all suffer in life. The great thing is Jesus did, too, and He wants to enter into and redeem our suffering. The second thing I thought about is how as singles we suffer in a different way, and it’s time we faced it.
Jesus and the Suffering Single
I’m not saying singleness is harder than marriage. It’s not about that really. But there is always this message that marriage is hard and we single folks just don’t get how great we have it. That’s just not true. [Read more...]

Single Men in the Church: A Female’s Perspective

[Disclaimer: Allow me to preface this entire post by saying that I try really hard to not be one of those girls who complains that there are no good Christian guys around. The purpose of this post is not to make that statement. While it may be unfair to say that there are no good guys around, the truth is there are not enough. The ratio of single men to women is extremely unbalanced. I know there are still good Christian men out there. If you are a single, Godly man reading this post, I am not denying your existence. You are rare and you are valuable. The world needs more men like you.]

I recently read the Single Roots article, Single Men in the Church: Where My Boys At? This is no new topic to me, as it is brought up around me constantly. From my single friends. From my married friends. From my pastors. All the time. [Read more...]

Let’s Talk About Porn

My first sample of pornographic material appeared while I was browsing late night TV the summer after my 8th grade year. What was happening in front of me was shocking, yet I kept changing the channel and then coming back to it, unable to fight the allure of discovering the true form of a woman for the first time.

Let's Talk About Porn

I discovered when I was 17 years old there were limitless temptations to be found online and seemingly no repercussions to follow. Even after dealing with my parents discovering pornography on the computer, the temptation was too strong and I learned one thing: Don’t get caught. Like so many other addictions in my life, I struggled in secret for years.

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