25 Things Singles Should Know

I went on a 9-hour road trip with one of my best friends recently, which means 9 hours of conversation about everything that is right and wrong with the world. On our journey, we read aloud 2 of Relevant Magazine’s articles: 20 Things Every Twentysomething Should Know How to Do and The Before You’re 40 Bucketlist.

25 Things Singles Should Know

After determining that we’d accomplished 15 of the 20 things we’re supposed to do before 40, and wholeheartedly agreeing with the things a twentysomething should know, our conversation turned to singleness. [Read more…]

How Can I Overcome My Struggle to Commit to a Church?

Singles are notorious for not committing to the local church. No-tor-ious. They feel slighted and like an afterthought. And while it makes us sad that it feels like the church places a higher emphasis on marriage than it does singleness, we are seeing this tide turn and we’re hopeful for the future.

How can I overcome my struggle to commit to a church?

One thing we do know, though, is not committing to a local church is not optional. So singles groups aren’t your thing? Okay, that’s fine, but keep fighting to find your place. The Church needs singles just as much as singles need Her.

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Resisting Spiritual Blessings: Pushing Back on the Things I Don’t Like

So I know I’m the only one, but I have some opinions about things. Lots. Just a few.

And I’ve been known to draw a line in the sand a time or two and resist certain things based on principle (or stubbornness, arrogance, or sometimes just plain stupidity). Most of the time, my resistance is not because the things are necessarily bad, but rather because of a personal preference or a prejudice that I’ve developed based on my experience or advice of others. I generally try to be an open-minded person, but several times I’ve shutdown any and all willingness to compromise on certain matters.

Resisting Spiritual Blessings: Pushing Back on the Things I Don't Like

1. Cruises

I am a planner. I love to plan and organize everything, and I’d plan and organize your life, too, if you’d let me. If vacation planning were a spiritual gift, I think it would be one of mine. Considering how much I love the act of planning itself, I’m not a big fan of cruises. They just don’t require the use of my spiritual gift of vacation planning, like say, a trip to Europe does. You show up, get on a boat, eat a lot of food, dock, sight see (from a list of planned activities), get back on the boat, and repeat. I just think it sounds a little…boring. So I’ve never been on one, and I might be a little snobbish about it. I’m okay with that.

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What If There’s No Expiration Date on My Singleness?

For your Creator will be your husband, the Lord of Heaven’s Armies is His name. He is your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel. The God of all the earth.” (Isaiah 54:5)

I’m not sure how my brothers in Christ see that verse, but as a single woman in her late 30’s, I can easily see how God is my husband. God has been the one I go to in many situations for which I would go to my husband if a husband was a part of my story.

What If There’s No Expiration Date on My Singleness?In my adult life, I have bought and sold one house and bought a second one. I have made many financial and healthcare related decisions while living with a chronic disease. I have changed jobs and moved three times. I am currently in between jobs and have joked with my friends that I’m a housewife without a husband.

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7 Ways Married Couples Can Serve Singles in the Church

As we began this SingleRoots journey, we were blessed by many of our married friends who supported and prayed for us. So many times we hear from them that the things we publish on the site are not just for single people and how they, too, have been encouraged by what they’ve read.

singles in the church

Recently we received an email from a married couple asking us how marrieds can serve singles in the church. We were so grateful for this couple’s heart. Truth be told, it caused us to step away from the computer and take a moment to praise the Lord for how He’s building up His Body—all parts of it.

How can marrieds serve singles in today’s church?

It seems like such a simple question, doesn’t it? [Read more…]