They say you know when you know. Not that we’d know, but that’s what they tell us. From what we hear, the same is true whether you’re dating traditionally or you’ve used an online dating site to meet. You just…know.
Jennifer and her husband James met almost 5 years ago on eharmony. They were matched in November, met in real life in January, and were married by April. We’d say they knew. They’ve been married 4 years now and have a baby on the way.
For those who worry about moving too quickly or dating long distance, theirs is a story you’ll want to read. Here’s what Jennifer told us:
SingleRoots: Did you struggle with the idea of online dating? Why or why not?
Jennifer: My husband and I both felt like God was leading us to join eharmony. In both our cases, friends suggested online dating, and eharmony in particular, so after much prayer we each joined and found one another.
SingleRoots: How long were you on eharmony before you found your spouse?
Jennifer: My husband joined in July 2009, I joined August 2009, and we met online in at the very end of November.
SingleRoots: Do you tell people you met your spouse online, or do you keep that under wraps? Why?
Jennifer: We tell them. A lot of people think how we dated is interesting and it worked for us. Everyone’s love story is different; this is ours.
SingleRoots: What was it about each of your profiles that caught the attention of the other? What made it stand out?
Jennifer: For both of us, we had a lot in common, morals, faith, outlook on life, etc.
SingleRoots: From the time you started messaging back and forth, what was your initial dating process like?
Jennifer: My husband and I had a whirlwind relationship. It was a long-distance relationship; we lived 6 hours apart. We met online at the end of November and went through the steps of eharmony in a couple days. We wrote each other on eharmony every day for a few weeks. When we wrote each other we asked questions from simple things like favorite color to detailed questions about our faith and beliefs.
In mid-December we started talking on phone and texting every night. We would talk on the phone and our phone calls were long; the longest one was 6 hours! On January 16th we met in person, and on March 13th we got engaged. In April, we got married. We had planned to get married in the fall but moved up our wedding to April. We were tired of being apart due to long distance.
SingleRoots: eharmony is one of the higher-priced online dating sites. Do you think it was worth it?
Jennifer: Yes, because that is how we met the love of our lives. Also I think the higher price discourages those who are not in it for a serious relationship.
SingleRoots: Were you pleased with your eharmony experience overall? Would you recommend it to other Christian singles?
Jennifer: I would recommend it. It worked well for us; I have heard it working for other couples as well. It was hard at times because it did take a few months for us to find one another and had to look through tons of profiles, but it was worth it in the end.
SingleRoots: What are some tips you’d offer other Christians who are online dating? Are there things you wish you’d done differently?
Jennifer: Just pray, really get to know the person well and follow your heart. Let God lead you to the right person. Don’t give up or get discouraged if it takes longer than you plan to find the right person. It took us a while to find each other and at times we both had thoughts of giving up, but we knew God was leading us.
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