Last month, we sent a survey to all of our email subscribers about their experiences with online dating memberships. We’re committed to giving objective reviews of the Best Christian Dating sites, and in an effort to do that, we wanted feedback from as many Christian singles as possible.
The good news is that the answers did not catch us by surprise. They fell right in line with what we’ve been hearing from many of you individually for a while now. Of course not everyone will agree on every detail, but here’s a summary of the feedback we received from the SingleRoots community about online dating for Christian singles:
We also included another open-ended question that couldn’t be displayed on an infographic, but we did want to share a few of those answers with you.
We asked our community: What are some of your biggest areas of struggle when it comes to online dating? Many of the answers were ones we expected, such as “no one in my area,” “lack of authenticity or misrepresentation,” “making my profile sound interesting, exciting, and unique,” “getting decent Christian guys to respond,” or “I don’t want to dedicate the money to the site.”
But there were other answers that were more specific. It helped us to hear things people in this community are struggling with, so we can address them in the future. Here’s a sampling of the more detailed answers we received:
- “There’s an overabundance of women; therefore, you have to be more aggressive online to get the attention you’d get easily in person.”
- “The effort put into the profile and searching does not always mean that you end up on more dates. I have tried consistently for 3 years on multiple sites and have yet to be out on one date.”
- “Not knowing a nice way to turn someone down for a second date. It made me feel like a horrible person, even though I was as nice about it as possible.”
- “It’s overwhelming. When, like, 30 people contacted me within the first week, I felt a lot of pressure to respond and guilty when I had to respond saying I wasn’t interested.”
- “Blind dates are a novel experience that I’m not sure how to even approach. I’m accustomed to naturally getting to know my date first (through friendship, working together, or whatever) and I’m not sure how to evaluate someone/my relationship with someone under the fast pace that online dating promotes.”
- “I oscillate between going out with everyone and being picky. Or worse, going out with someone when I think there really isn’t any potential. Also, it’s very easy to make snap judgments and rule people out because ‘There will always be others.’”
- “Being patient with the process. I am easily overwhelmed, which is why I like eharmony because you are only sent a few matches each day.”
- “I struggle with the fact that the individual on the other side may be talking to me and 20 other individuals.”
- “Getting to know the real person…however, I’ve been talking to the same guy for the last 2 months and I’m pretty sure he’s the one!”
Can you relate to any of those? Also, what did you think about the survey results? Did they surprise you? Share your thoughts in the comments below.