Being able to follow Micah’s three-month journey on Christian Mingle has been especially enlightening because he shows us that online dating success is directly tied to your trust and involvement with the site you’re using. Since Day 1, Micah has struggled with feeling comfortable with Christian Mingle.
However, when he used eharmony, he felt he had a more positive online dating experience, so he prefers that site. Here’s his final evaluation of his three-month Online Dating Experiment on Christian Mingle:
Let’s get down to numbers: In your 3 months of online dating, how many guys/girls have you actually communicated with: How many have you talked on the phone and/or texted with? How many have you gone on dates with? How many had real potential, even if it didn’t work out?
Micah: I communicated briefly with three women through the messaging component of Christian Mingle. That’s the sum of it. No dates and no real potentials.
Are there any reasons you think your online dating experience is exceptional or atypical?
Micah: I reckon my experience is quite similar to other young professionals. However, like I commented in previous posts, I’ve realized the medium of Internet is helpful for me secondary to personal interaction, so that may skew my experience.
Are you planning to continue online dating? If so, would you use the same site or try a different one?
Micah: I probably will go back to it again using eharmony—oddly enough I had what seemed like frequent emails about interested women on eharmony while I was using Christian Mingle. Like I said in a past post, I like the structure for communicating and trust the matching tools eharmony uses.
You’ve been on this online dating venture for 3 months now. What one word would you use to sum it up?
Micah: Typical. An old teacher of mine, writing of me in a college recommendation, said that when I’m interested in something, I’m all in (the subtext was when I’m not I’m not). Sadly, I never got interested enough in this site to invest a lot in it. But another aspect of my personality is that I’m willing to try new things, sometimes after some nudging. I did give this a try, and I’m glad I did. Like my dad has said, “You usually never regret trying something new.” Thanks, SingleRoots, for the opportunity.
Would you recommend other people try online dating?
Micah: I really would. What does someone have to lose? My two cents: find a local match that you can get to know face to face along with online interaction. And pray.
Have you tried Christian Mingle? Was your experience similar to Micah’s or not?