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12
Apr 2012

What If I Don’t Want to Get Married?

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You'll never hear us saying marriage is for everyone...

Not everyone is sitting around pining for the love of his or her life to come along. In fact, there are a lot of us who are so busy living our lives that sometimes we wonder if there’s room for a relationship.

I’ve found that since I’ve become a single thirty something, I’ve started taking an account of all of the great aspects of my singleness, such as not having to budget for boats, 4-wheelers or guns, being able to plan meals around 1 person’s palate and preferences, not having someone complain about my driving, or not having to share electronics for Ice Road Truckers or World of Warcraft.

The longer I’m single, the more I find myself wondering if I even want to get married. I mean, sure, I want the whole love and affection (and sex) part, but I’m becoming pretty independent, pretty picky, pretty quirky, pretty idiosyncratic, pretty…selfish. [Read more...]

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09
Apr 2012

When Will I Get Married? (and 7 Other Questions that Plague Singles)

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  • When Will I Get Married?
  • What If I Don’t Like the Singles Ministry at My Church?
  • Why Won’t You Ask Her Out?
  • What’s the Secret to Being Content with My Singleness?
  • Should I Tell My Girlfriend I Struggle with Pornography?
  • What’s the Single Most Destructive Thing You Can Do with Your Singleness?
  • What’s Debt Got to Do With It?
  • What If I Don’t Want to Get Married?

Chances are, if you’re single, you’ve struggled with several, if not all, of these questions. We have too. They’re not simple questions with one-paragraph answers. They’re the kind of questions that are recurring and nag against our contentment. Some keep us company in the dark nights when our minds begin to wander down the roads of “what if,” “what could’ve been,” and “why me.” [Read more...]

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02
Apr 2012

Why I’m Not Seeking the Institution of Marriage

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If singleness is a season, it feels like Spring to me.

Most of what I write is fairly universal in application. Yes, I am a single person and the blog I write for is called SingleRoots, but most of what I compose is for the believer-at-large. Is there something wrong with me? Shouldn’t my matrimonial status determine more of what I think and do?

After all, it’s called Focus on the Family. I don’t hear politicians talk much about single-person values either. If a place of business labels itself as “single friendly,” I’d be afraid that it would be either very depressing or morally bankrupt.

Maybe I’m not very emotionally or spiritually mature. Maybe I need to grow more as a person and believer before I can contribute to the life and happiness of a woman. But I know some messed up people who are married. And their spouses are messed up, too. In fact, I’m more together than a lot of people, even though I still have issues. [Read more...]

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28
Mar 2012

Syncing Your Calendar to Your Life

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I don't believe you can put a timeline on love or marriage.

As a single thirty-something, I often find myself thinking about dating and marriage. In the forms of both daydreams and nightmares, these topics are clearly on my mind. I wouldn’t say I’m obsessed, merely looking ahead. Just like a two-year-old boy might dream of riding a bike, or a 15-year old girl might long for her Sweet Sixteen, I’m thinking about the next chapter in my life. Because, let’s get real, the current chapter seems longer than all seven Harry Potter books combined.

I’ve never been one of those girls that said things like, “I want to be married by 22 and have kids by 25.” Good thing, I suppose, since I’ve clearly missed those goals! I don’t believe you can put a timeline on love or marriage. But, I also don’t like flying by the seat of my pants in life and just “seeing what will happen.” [Read more...]

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27
Mar 2012

What I Learned from Attending (Yet Another) Wedding

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Yes, I am a very classy guy.

If you’re reading this, chances are you are not married.

Make a mental note right now: Invite me to your wedding.

If necessary, provide airfare and accommodations. I am not good at a lot of things but going to weddings and making them fun is one of the blessings our great God has bestowed upon me. I will eat your food. I will dance with your women. I will bust so many moves I’ll have your grandma breaking a sweat from the old folks table in the back.

I just love everything about a good wedding reception. Frankly, in the past, I looked at the actual ceremony as paying my dues so that I can qualify to party with your friends and family for a few hours afterwards. I like the ceremony to be short, sweet, and to the point. Essentially, “Let’s just get this over with” because I’ve got a cheese and meat tray to attend to.

I know what you’re thinking and yes, I am a very classy guy. [Read more...]

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