So how do we let guys know it's okay to ask us out?

It happens a lot here at this place. I order one thing and it’s never quite what I imagined. For instance, chicken apple panini doesn’t look a thing like chicken or apples and the spinach salad is always more fruit than spinach.

And I’m not even picky, I promise.

Last night the tears were threatening to spill over and, while I have overactive tear ducts when it comes to loving my friend’s kids or those soldiers coming home from the war videos, rarely do I let myself cry on account of my own life. But I sat there on the couch while my roommate promised me I’d get married someday while simultaneously telling me that perhaps I was a bit too picky.

“Too picky?!” I asked incredulously. I just want him to be smarter that me, really, that’s it. He can be anything else, I don’t really care, he can be bald, he can be old, he can be grey, he can be younger than me, he can have five kids, I don’t care. He just needs to be smarter than me.

She cocks an eyebrow at me and her grin starts slowly until we’re both laughing at me. I’ve been asked out five times in the past week and haven’t gone out yet with one of those guys.

I’m that sort of hopeless.  [Read more...]

Unawareness really is blissful when you struggle with worry...

So yesterday, while a dozen or so tornadoes were weaving throughout the DFW Metroplex, I was sitting on my sofa working on SingleRoots business while my college roommate was sitting beside me learning of the greatness that is Downton Abbey. We were doing important stuff, you know. We were also blissfully unaware of just how bad the “typical” spring storm had become.

My mother, a teacher, was in Houston at a conference and received word that Central Arlington had a tornado on the ground. She quickly texted her news/social media junkie daughter to make sure that everyone in the family was okay. She asked if I would check on my grandmother who has Alzheimer’s and lives in a nursing home in Central Arlington. I assured her that Granddoe (yes, that’s our name for her) was fine, but I would call so we could be certain. [Read more...]

Something did enter my house that night...

Three weeks ago Saturday, I came home at midnight after having coffee with a friend. I was brushing my teeth when I heard a sound that startled me: my house alarm. Within seconds, I had locked my bathroom door, hidden myself in the closet, and dialed 911.

“Hello, this is 911. What is your emergency?”
“My house alarm is going off.”

I gave her the appropriate information and, after telling me the police were on their way, she continued to ask me questions.

“Did you hear any suspicious noises or voices?”
“No, just my alarm. I ran to hide and then called you.”
“Okay, just stay on the line with me and stay where you are until I tell you to move.”

Within minutes, the police had arrived and the 911 operator told me that they were searching the exterior of the house.   [Read more...]

Lessons from the ER (a real one, not the television version)

{Editor’s Note: Today’s post was written by Alisia Baker. You can read more about Alisia at the end of the post.}

Over the past summer I got a chance to become part of the pharmacy team in the Emergency Room at my hospital. It was definitely time to push myself outside of my comfort zone, and the ER proved to be a challenging new territory. Not only have I learned many new things in the pharmacy world, but I have also learned a great deal about myself and human nature.

On Christmas Day, I was throwing myself a self-imposed pity party because I was working the evening shift. I had spent Christmas morning alone and was grateful to be going to work to spend time with people. Several of my friends had invited me over to their house for Christmas morning, but I chose to be alone. My parents had offered to come up, but I didn’t want them to miss out on the opportunity to spend time with my brother’s family. I even decided not to attend church on Christmas morning because I felt that I would become bitter seeing all of the families sitting together at church. I had bargained with God that I would listen to a sermon podcast on Christmas morning, but my attitude was pretty poor when I left for work that day. [Read more...]

Taking a step of faith isn't so easy, even if you really want to do it.

Any of my close friends can tell you that the one dream I have for my life is to live abroad. I’ve talked about it since the summer I spent three weeks studying at Oxford with my seminary classmates.

I don’t trust myself or my heart enough to believe that just any dream that I have is God-given. But I do know that while this dream does seem a little self-satisfying, it also satisfies my God-given heart for missions and being a part of the work He is doing around the globe.

For years, I’ve participated in short-term mission trips within the United States, Mexico, and Canada, and I’ve traveled internationally for vacations, but my participation in international missions has been mainly in the form of finances and prayer support.

I’ve longed to go myself–and not just on a short-term trip–but to plant myself for an extended period of time in a culture that is different from the one I’ve always known. My career as a teacher was an easy ticket for international employment, but I was also a homeowner and, after several discussions with my realtor, I faced the fact that I wasn’t going anywhere for a while. I wasn’t unhappy teaching, but I felt like I was stuck in autopilot, and if I wasn’t careful I would eventually stifle my heart for the nations and forget that I ever had it.

And then everything changed. [Read more...]